Week 3

Not to much to add this week. We have spoken to our SW a couple of times and she has been busy on our behalves. I am going on holiday this weekend with my mother and niece, so will not blog next week it will be in 2 weeks time the next one.
We got our first CPR to read at the end of last week, will say more in a moment when I do the children and that really is it on the adoption front for this week.
The Children
Boy R5 – our SW has received his CPR and is going to read through it and pass it on to us later in the week if she thinks that he could be right for us. So we are waiting on that.
Boy J8 – Our Sw received a call from this little boys SW asking if we would be interested in having a look. We looked at his flyer, and I had seen this child in the publication’s. I read his CPR and hubby started to read it, but I think that we know from the start that he was not for us. It was very hard and I think being the first CPR that we had read we were wanting it to be right, but there has to be something there for you and that child/ children’s sake, so it was a very sad no.
We made a start on the small bedroom and that now has been painted, just the edges, ceiling and wood work to be done. We can then move what furniture is going to go in there in.
Hubby has also made a start on tidying up the front.
I have had a good clear out of my shoes, it was a very sad day for me as i love my shoes, but I had so many they were practically taking up a whole double wardrobe. They are now down to only half a wardrobe!!!
Weighed in this morning. I am the same weight as last week, whilst disappointed not to have lost, really the way that I ate last week I am luck not to have put on!!!
Not hoping to have lost at the next weight in 2 weeks with being away and them my mum and niece are coming back to stay the following week. Oh god it can only get worse.
Will update again in 2 weeks after my week in Devon xx


Well 2 weeks in now. The SW was back of her holiday on monday and was on the phone to us on Monday, so good to know we had not been forgotten about. I was working nights so received the voice mail when I woke up. It was too late to phone her, so I phoned her the next day.
The Children
What I shall do here each week is only either add new children we have enquired about, or just up date any that we have heard anything about. I will not go through each group as it will get very tedious if we have nothing to add.
Boy D8, BoyM7, Girl L5 – Well this SW has been in contact with our SW and actually wanted to come out to visit us on 5th August, only 2 weeks time!!!!! We have not even seen their CRP’s yet and I am away on holiday for the week that week anyway, so that was out of the question. I would not let a SW visit without having read a CRP. We know that we have been the only people to enquire about these children and are very wary of being rushes. It is such a big step that we do not intend to let this happen. We still really like what we have seen about these 3 so far though.
Girl S8, Boy C6 These 2 were the children who were from the borough where I was born. Our SW spoke to their FF and spoke about where my family live. To visit my family we would be practical driving past these children’s birth family, so it would be very distressing for them. This has meant that it would be very unpractical, we have had to say good-bye to these 2.
Girl S7, Boy E4, These were on BMP online at the tail end of last week, we emailed their SW and know that as yet our SW has not heard anything from their SW.
Boy R5 Our SW sent this little ones profile out in the post to us and we received it this morning. Although we have always said we wanted more than one, we really liked what we saw. We have phoned and left a message, and emailed, just to make doubly sure that she gets the message and said yes we would be very interested. His SW already has our report but said that she would not read it until we said that we were deffinitly interested, WE ARE!!
Things to do.
  1. We need to get our birth certificates down from the loft so that our SW can enter their numbers on our report
  2. Carpet landing and stairs
  3. Tidy back garden
  4. Tidy front garden
  5. New shed door
  6. Small bedroom
  7. Back bedroom
  8. Shower screen, need either folding or curtain.


I really need to loss some weight so thought I would track my progress here I have weighed this morning and will weigh every Wednesday from now on. I am also going to try to work towards the Slimming World Fitness awards. I want to loss 85lbs grrrr!!



One week since being approved

About Us
We are L and R, we have been married for 22 years this year. About 12 years ago we had one IVF treatment, but when it did not work decided not to try again. R has always said about adopting, but I have always said no after a bad experience with a Social Worker (SW) when we had applied to foster many years ago.
During the later part of 2007 I had a spate of watching the Australian soap opera Neighbours, they had a family on there that had 2 adopted children, the more I watched the programme the more it put it in my head about adopting. After doing some research on the internet I knew it was something that I wanted to do. I also knew that as soon as I mentioned it to R, he would be all for it.
How We Got to Now
  • December 2007 – researched agencies
  • December 2007 – contacted several agencies either by phone or filling in online application forms.
  • December 2007 – receive invite to informal interview with Voluntary Agency (VA)
  • January 2008 – attend interview with VA
  • January 2008 – received invite to attend prep course with VA
  • January 2008 – attend to open adoption events with 2 different Local Authorities (LA)
  • January 2008 – Decide to go with VA
  • April/May 2008 – attend 4 day prep course over 3 weeks
  • June 2008 – SW visits us at home to talk about whether we want to proceed
  • July 2008 – Start home study (HS)
  • August 2008 – put in our official application to adopt
  • January 2009 – finish HS
  • July 2009 – Approval Panel

8th July 2009 – We are Official Approved

Where we are Now

We were hoping to be approved for a sibling group of 2 or 3 children aged 5+. What the panel actually recommended was 1 or 2 children aged 5+, the chairman said that this was not because they doubted our ability to cope with 3 children, but more to do with there being a lot of sibling groups of 3 out there and as they tend to be much harder to find adoptive parents for them SW can be a little short coming with the facts, then when placed will push for early adoption orders.

This is only a recommendation though, and once you are approved, you are approved to adopted.

Our SW is at present on holiday, so we are not expecting any news for a few weeks yet. We are lucky that because we have always wanted older children we already had a few SW’s showing interest in us. I will post about the most recent activity.

Boy D8, Boy M7, Girl L5 We are very interested in what we have seen so far about these 3. There SW has already got copies of our report.

Boy D8, Boy M6 These 2 boys were online at Children Who Wait (CWW), they caught our eye and we liked what we read about them so requested more information about them. We have learnt from previously enquiring about children that the SW’s tend not to even acknowledge us and just contact our SW, so the fact that we have not heard anything as yet is not worrying us.

Boy K6, Boy K4 We saw these 2 on another online site, Be My Parent (BMP). Again they caught our eye, we read about them and enquired. Have not heard anything to date.

Girl S8, Boy C6 2 days after being approved the CWW mag dropped through our door. These 2 children stood out 2 us. They are from the Borough where i was born and 1 of the things that their SW is looking for is a family that has links to the area. I still have a lot of family who live there, so we visit often. I have spoken with their Family Finder (FF). Their SW is also on holiday at the moment, but the FF has taken our SW details and will be in touch with her when she is back at work.

There have been a fair few other sibling groups that we have enquired about over the last few months, the ones that I have mentioned are the most up to date ones. I will be updating every Wednesday, so if we hear anything about them I will add them to my blog.

Hope you enjoy reading

L xx