Halloween

Today was our 1st Halloween together, after getting this morning ran very smoothly, and as Munch was on his best behaviour off we went to buy some things for Halloween that we had not been able to get yesterday. It was a good day to buy as everything was half price. We picked up a few bits then went off to the supermarket to get lunch.

When in there they were doing face painting for Halloween so Munch had his face painted as a Devil, shopping got and off we went home, no incidents today thank goodness. In the car granny asked Munch what he was going to say at people’s door’s and he said ‘Merry Christmas’ which made as all laugh.

At home we set about carving our pumpkin, then decorated for Halloween, Munch was very excited and could not wait for it to get dark so that he could go Trick or Treating.

I was getting the dinner ready in the kitchen and gave Munch a bag of prawn cracker’s that had come with the Chinese that the adults had for tea, Munch finds it really hard to share anything, not just because he is very emotionally immature in some area’s but also because of some of the things that happened to him in his early years and we have worked hard and patiently to help him in this area, but we are fighting an up hill battle and we are taking it slowly and gradually he is improving. Whilst I was doing the dinner I could hear granny asking Munch to give her one to which Munch would not, she kept on and Munch kept saying no, before I could intervene, I think that granny took the crackers of Munch, as all I heard was a lot of screaming and granny saying ‘hear take them I don’t want one know, your spiteful and nasty’ or words to that effect anyway, when I came in the living room Munch’s nose was bleeding, granny said that she had put her hands up to defend herself, which I have no doubt that she had to, but I was so angry and said we have worked hard, and do no want the little progress we have made undone!!!

Munch watched TV quietly until it was time o go Trick or Treating, we were out for 1 1/2 hours and he did very well and had a very full pumpkin bucket. Back home we had dinner really late, I had just told Munch he had 10 minutes until bed when daddy phoned and said that he was on his way home so Munch was allowed to stay up and have 10 minutes with daddy then it was off to bed. I was called to put cream on to Munch and not heard a peep since.

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Oh Dear!

Yesterday morning from the minute Munch go up he was in a hyper mood going at a 100 miles an hour. He was not to bad just doing everything really quickly.

Later we all got ready and went to the local shopping centre, we went for something to eat, all the time we were out Munch was pushing at the boundaries several times he was asked to do things or not to do things and it would take several times before he would listen. We were going to a shop to get things for Halloween today and a few times I said that if he continued we would not go, on the way to the shop, he kept repeating over and over, please can we go to the —–, I asked him to stop, he carried on, I said that if he carried on we would not go, he carried on whilst laughing, so I said  he had to many chances and that was it we were going home, Munch did not like it at all and at this point I could see we were in for one of his meltdowns, he cried and growled on the way back to the car, he got in and we started off home. When he is in this zone we know that there is no reasoning with him as this just fuels it and we just we have to do to keep him and ourselves safe. Granny though decided that she was to start telling him how if he had listened to mummy and not kept pushing it, Munch by this stage just could not cope with that and hit granny round the head, I had to pull over into a petrol station and get him out of the car, by now he was in his really scary zone where he just cannot control it, I could not let go of him as it was to dangerous, but just holding him by the hand, he was able to hit out, kick, bite, spit so I literally had to get behind him and restrain him. The lady came out from he garage and knocked on the car window to ask if she could do anything. LIKE WHAT!!!!! He eventually seemed to calm so I got him back in the car, only for him to lash out again, so back out of the car we got, I said that we would have to walk home, he was completely out of it, I had to sit at a bus stop and restrain him, it must have taken 1/2 hour to get him to  a calm enough state to get back into the car. He was told that when we got home he was going to his bedroom for a cool down period, if he hit or did anything that he should not the time in the bedroom would be extended, we managed to get home without any incident, and Munch went straight up to his bedroom.

Once up there though he started again, I ended up upstairs with him for a good hour sitting in the door of the bedroom, he threw things at me launch himself at me with his fists and feet on more than one occasion I had to put my hands up to defend myself which sent him reeling back onto he floor, all of which I then got blame for being told that I had done it on perpose!! Eventually I could see that he was trying to regulate himself, so I got him to get his drinks bottle to suck as sucking is very calming. Munch sucked his bottle and then came and sat on my knee and snuggled in whilst sucking on his bottle. Eventually cam was restored 2 hours after meltdown had started.

The rest of the day past without incident, me and daddy made the most of granny being here and had a night out.

Quiet Day

Today the plan was to go to Legoland for the fireworks, but after such busy day’s for the past few day’s I decided that a quiet day was in order. I did not mention it to Munch, nor he to me so it was left at that. I was very glad that we did not go as later on we received a phone call from a fellow adopter friend who was there with her daughter to say that there was a power cut and the park was closing as the power was going to be out for at least 3 hours, so lucky escape is what I say!!!

Munch played on the computer for a lot of the day today, I know bad mummy letting him. We went to Tesco’s to do shopping, whilst there they had a special offer for an Alien’s vs. Monster’s Halloween Special DVD, so I bought it for Munch as he does like to sit and watch a film. What a rip off, it was a whole 20 minutes long!!!! Note to self, remember to check running time when buying DVDs in future. He enjoyed it though which is the main thing.

We spent an hour in the afternoon doing some Halloween picture’s, then back on the computer he went. Munch asked me to do something with him on Club Penguin, he had got up a video on YouTube showing him a mission. When I looked I asked to sit down to look as a though that I was an old video and wanted to check the date, Munch stood up and as I went to sit down got very angry and knocked the coffee I was holding all over the floor. I got a cloth and cleaned it up and was telling him how dangerous it was and trying to explain that I thought the video was out of date when he lashed out, hitting is straight to a 3, so on the step he went, he was very angry about this and as I went passed him kicked, so even though told by our play therapist that once the 7 minutes starts that what ever happen’s it is just that 7 minutes I just thought I am not tolerating this, so told him that his 7 minutes was starting again, to this he howled and called me a f*****g idiot, so I started it a, so I started it again, he lashed out at the dog, so I started it again, he did then calm down, did his time and went to play on the computer again, he looked very tired when I looked at him so I think that the late nights are catching up on him.

Whilst I was preparing dinner Munch played with his ClubIce Hockey game with granny, ate dinner well, played ice hockey again with granny whilst I got his bath ready. Bathed whilst playing with granny, TV, supper, he lost his story for teasing the dog and normal bed time routine. An hour after bed he was calling down for cream, once applied not a peep was heard again.

Big Cousin

Well Munch had been looking forward to this day for a while, his big cousin and Aunty were visiting for the day, he spent all morning asking ‘how many minutes till they get here’. They arrived at 1.30pm after a terrible journey, Munch immediately collared big cousin to go on the computer and play club penguin.

After an hour, Munch, big cousin and daddy all went off to the local children’s Kids Space whilst mummy, Aunty and Granny all got to go shopping and have a nice meal at a very nice shopping mall.

Daddy said afterwards that on the whole Munch had been well-behaved, he had to be spoken to about calming down and not getting over excited and hitting people. It was the first time that he had been tall enough to go on the over head walking challenge and the 1st time he bottled out part way round, but Munch being Munch went back again and conquered it, and went on another 2 times after that and went round very confidently. They then went to Macdonald’s for tea.

Back at home more computer, then Munch and big cousin played with his club penguin ice hockey game for a good 1 1/2 hours, with no tantrums when big cousin won points, a big break through. They played in his bedroom for a while until it was time for big cousin to go home.

Another late night, but a good day.

Granny Comes Visiting

Yesterday again we had a good day. Munch and I went shopping for a Halloween outfit and a bit of food. We then went home and got ready for the Ugly Bug Ball we were attending in the afternoon at our local Children’s Centre.

We went Munch was well-behaved but as usual in these situations his emotional age is a few years younger and he just ran round and round, joining in the dancing once or twice. Our friends daughter was there with her child minder and for a lot of the time he just wanted to be with her. Towards the end daddy and granny came, Munch was pleased to see granny but was very caught up in what was happening in the centre.

Munch was very good at home in the evening and on very good form with granny even sitting on her knee. He played hide and seek and on the computer before bed.

Today has been a day of 2 halfs, this morning Munch got up and went to granny but did go back to bed when asked to. We were going to Chessington today and Munch had been looking forward to it.

After breakfast and getting dressed i was like Munch had his finger on the self distruct button, he was uncooperative, was in one of his blaming and twisting moods, he ended up having time out, he was very angry and kicking out and swearing. He calmed down before the end of the 7 minutes, and we eventually go off.

Once at Chessington, he was moody waned to go on rides then did not want to, he had a rotten attitude and was constantly being rude, in the end I read him the riot act and told him that I was fed up of it, we were not just going to wonder around aimlessly all day, that he could loss his attitude and that this was it no more warning’s. The next time we would just go home. He was a bit sullen afterwards, be picked up and we had a lovely rest of the day.

Coming home in the car I was beginning to think we had picked up he wrong child, he was very polite and kind, he was very pleasant. We came home, he had supper and off he went to bed.

Dare I Say it…..

We have had another good day here. Few wake up calls before 9am but sent back to bed. Afterwards up and breakfast. Dressed and bike ride with daddy whilst he walked the day.

Munch played on the Wii for a while whilst we had a cuppa before we all went to pick up daddy’s cab. Daddy went off to work whilst me and Munch went and did a bit of shopping. We then called in to see a friend who had been one of our references, it was the 1st time she had met Munch. He was really well-behaved, he put on his usual front, but it was not half as bad as normal.

When we got home I asked Munch to entertain himself as I needed to as Granny is coming tomorrow to stay, this he did lovely, he played upstairs for a while then downstairs making a huge mountain out of my pile of ironing!!!  At one point I asked Munch for a cuddle and got a lovely one, a real 1st for him to just come and give me one.

After tea Munch went on the computer whilst speaking to his cousin on the phone, said goodbye when told to had his supper and off to bed. We had a lovely goodnight hug and kisses, Munch then called me back saying I had cuddled him and he wanted to cuddle me, after the cuddle he then went on to kiss me on the cheek put in a totally inappropriate way, I asked him to stop but he continued, I repeated several times  that is not how son’s kiss their mummy’s, but he continued laughing and kept saying ‘scardy cat’, I left the room and on the way out of the room said that I was sad that even though I had asked him not to kiss me like that and why, he had continued to do so. Half way down the stairs I got a ‘sorry mummy’.

A little while after he had been in bed Munch started calling down saying he need cream for a poorly, I think it was more to do with not liking to go to sleep on a bad note, and needed me to go up and show him I was not cross and everything was ok.

And Another Good One!!

We had a visit during the night as Munch had a nose bleed. I moped him up and took  him back to his bed with a toilet roll and we did not hear another peep until he knocked on the door and came into our bedroom armed with his clock to show us that it was 9am.

Munch and daddy got up and left me in bed for a nice lay in. I could hear them laughing and playing downstairs. Munch came up every now and again to tell me what was happening. A little later they got themselves ready and off they went swimming whilst i had a nice couple of hours peace and quiet.

When they got back Munch came in and gave me the biggest hug, that was such a big break through for our little man and even know a good few hours later I find myself grinning about it. We all watched a bit of TV, Munch used the computer, then it was time for dinner.

After that normal evening routine, bath, TV, supper, teeth, bed, we had a little incident whilst getting into bed where he pushed me. This has happened several times lately, so I had words with him. This started him shouting at me, I put down his book and told him that I  was fed up with being shouted at and if that was how he was going to speak to me, I was not going to stay and left the room. Munch called down that he was sorry and please could he have his story, so I went back up and said on this occasion I would read to him. He listened well and again I had a lovely goodnight hug and lovely kisses.

One glowing mummy signing off…….

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