Snowy Day

So much for telling Munch that he would have no TV in the morning if he came knocking, he came in 1st at 4am, then 7am, then 7.30 am and then again just after very excited because he had looked out of the window and seen all the snow!!! I  am coming to the conclusion that 7.30 is to early for him to go to bed as he is awake well before us every morning so may after christmas extend his bedtime to 8pm and see how we go.

At that I gave up and got up, was looking forward to an extra 15 minutes as it was play therapy day, but it was not to be. Came downstairs and have to say was very naughty and did let Munch have TV as I had a lot that I wanted to do before the PT arrived. Munch watched TV for a very short while whilst eating his breakfast, then got dress up so he could go out in the garden with the dog, he had a great time throwing snowball’s and the dog put on a great show of running round and round the garden  like a mad thing.

PT arrived and went out in the garden for 5 minutes, before they came in and had their session. PT said afterwards that  it had gone very well. We had our usual session afterwards, we talked about all we had done over 10 sessions and just told her about our week. Today was her last of the 10 sessions that Munch’s LA have funded, tomorrow we have a review, hopefully it will not be cancelled due to he snow and Munch’s SW and Reviewing Officer having to travel an extremely long way. The big thing will be getting more funding for PT to continue, but we don’t think it will be in place by next week, so it looks like we are going to have a gap.

Picked Munch up from school, came home, again no reading book, or work diary, will have to have words with his teacher. We did his Mr Men challenge where he had to find something that begins with each letter of the alphabet and write a sentence about them. Munch got on with it, I had 2 phone calls whilst he was doing it and Munch, being Munch did his usual and really rushed, his writing left a lot to desire, he did it in pen rather than pencil so if he made a mistake he could rub it out, I did not make a fuse though as it knocks his self esteem, but tried to get him to slow down a bit and tell me what he wanted to write and I then was able to help him with his spelling’s. It did improve towards the end, but I am not going to push him with home work, as he is as the PT say’s a very strong-willed child, I have found by just giving him encouragement and not pushing, his work diary that they have each week with a topic in has gotten better and better, he spend’s more time doing it, put’s a lot more thought into it, and will often now want to do it, and will ask to.

After that we went out and did some snowballing in the back garden until mummy became to cold, I think Munch would have gone on for ever, we then came in and play Wii Mario Karts until it was time for me to get dinner done. Munch played on the computer.

Once we’d had dinner it was time to go to Beaver’s, I had not realised how much the snow was falling and if I had I proberbly would have kept him at home, but we were all dressed up ready and outside before I did so we ventured down the road. There was only 3 Beavers there so they joined the Cubs, when I picked him up I got my 1st Christmas card from my son. Very big proud mummy moment.

Back home, supper and ready for bed, we don’t do story after Beaver’s because it is a late night and one gorgeous boy, tucked up in bed.

 

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Another Week Begins

Well twice this morning Munch came knocking on the bedroom door well before getting up time, he has been told that if he does it tomorrow there will be no TV when he gets up, so we will see what happens tomorrow. Rest of the morning went ok, had one session on the step for talking rudely, but apart from that, he was safely deposited at school.

Munch was in a good mood when I picked him up from school, when we got home I noticed that he had brought his reading book home, so will be making sure that he does tomorrow, I asked him to play on his own for 1/2 hour which he did, he had a couple of time outs for speaking rudely, then it was time for us to go and do special play time, Munch chose to play Junior Monopoly again which we did for 3/4 hour, I set an alarm so that Munch knew that once it went off I had to go to do dinner, this worked very well and there was no delaying tactics from Munch what so ever, so I think hat I shall adopt the alarm method again.

Munch played Mario Karts on the Wii for a while then went on the computer whilst I was preparing dinner. Someone came to look a the insulation in our loft whilst I was doing dinner, so I had to go upstairs with them, Munch played up a fair bit, he needed help when he didn’t, could not find thing’s that he knew perfectly well where they were, he created a big fuss because he couldn’t draw what he wanted to when in fact he had just scribbled on the paper, all to get attention, I just told him I was busy and he would have to manage on his own for a moment. Once they had gone Munch was fine, I did have words about his behaviour whilst they were here.

Dinner ended up being late, so bath was late, Munch had his telly afterwards, then we had a lovely story, snuggle time and massage with Munch’s special cream.

 

The Good, the Bad and the Good Again.

Well this morning started off very well, Munch came into our room a little earlier than I would have liked on a Sunday morning, especially after a lovely night last night filled with plenty of Bacardi, but he came in armed with a letter and had written to mummy and daddy I love you from Munch, what could we do after that, so we let him in, he watched Cartoon Network fo a while, then we put on the X Factor that we had recorded from last night, we watched just over half of it but Munch was starting to restless so we all got up.

I cooked a nice big Sunday breakfast of sausage, bacon, eggs black pudding, mushrooms and potato cakes. Munch did well, he ate some of his mushroom’s, egg, bacon and sausage, he tried the potato cake, and the black pudding but did not like them.

He asked to watch the Karate Film again, and went off to the living room to watch, when daddy went him, Munch was very rude and told daddy that he was not watching the film, daddy took offence at this and world war 3 broke out, daddy was shouting, Munch was shouting, which made daddy worse, now Munch has the upper hand and the control hat he wants, so out comes the language calling daddy a f—–g idiot, you f—–r, which enraged daddy even more, I dragged Munch upstairs and put him in his room and closed the door as he was being extremely violent. He was told he was not to leave his bedroom and he could stay there until told otherwise.

I was so angry with hubby, what was the point in all the work we had done with the play therapist, it is one of Munch’s little tricks to try to rile and recreate that chaotic , abusive lifestyle that to him was the norm for so many years of his precious life and hubby had played right into, what happened to our that is rude and not allowed – step.

Hubby went off in a strop with the dog because I told him what I though of him, Munch was upstairs wailing and that’s all it was a big noise and going on and on about wanting to go ice skating as that was what we were supposed to be doing today, but as a consequence of his behaviour was just not happening, I just said no we would not be going today, and he was to say upstairs until further notice.

Hubby came back with a face like a fiddle, I eventually let Munch down, he was acting like an angel and still though he was going to be able to go skating –  NO. He played on the computer for a short while, then engaged daddy in a spy game, by then hubby had stopped sulking, so off upstairs went they and came down with their spy costumes on, they did this for about half hour until Munch was bored with that.

Me and Munch went and made some jelly together to have for afters later, we then had lunch and got out all the paints and arts and craft bits and did some painting and sticking. After Munch had enough we went upstairs and played Junior Monopoly for an hour, Munch really enjoyed this and played it very well, we packed up in time for a nice quiet afternoon in front of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

After all the going’s on of this morning, I did not have the incline or the energy to do a Sunday roast, so am afraid Munch sat down to a Sunday dinner of beans on toast, followed by his orange jelly that he had made today.

Straight in the bath after were Munch played with all his toy mobile character’s as he usually does, he called out to me at one point and when I asked him what he wanted his reply was “love ya” aaaahhhh!!

TV, supper, story read and little man is now tucked up in bed, been a bit of a strange day today, daddy is in work, so lets hope he is in a better mood when he gets in, and tomorrow is another day.

27/11 – Karate Kid.

Today daddy decided to do a day shift at work, very rare as he hates getting up in the morning’s, Munch was awake so daddy said he could come into bed with me, he lasted for 10 minutes then decided he was going to have a cup of tea with daddy so downstairs’ he went, about 15 minutes later back he came with daddy carrying his cup of tea and back into bed he got with his cup of tea!!!

Munch put on his cartoon network and happily watched TV until 9.30, so I had a nice lay in. We came downstairs and had breakfast, Munch had his hour on the computer then sat very happily playing with his Lego, it’s almost mid-day and we are both sitting here in out PJ’s, so we are going to go and get dressed now so we can go and do a bit of shopping in Tesco’s.

Right shopping done, had lunch at the cafe in Tesco’s, Munch bought himself a little Spongebob Squarepants keyring out of his own money and we are now back home. Munch has phoned his big cousin and played on Club Penguin for 20 minutes, we have both spent 1/2 hour on the Wii doing Just Dance, boy do I think my arms are going to ache tomorrow and now against my better judgement Munch is on the sofa watching the new Karate Kid film, I say against my better judgement because we have has to take away his Disney Mulan film before because he has been very hyped up after watching it and is in everyone’s face’s doing his karate move’s, it not him doing he karate moves that is the problem, it is the fact that he is very much in everyone’s space and to close for comfort. He has been warned that should he do this after watching this film, it will be taken away and he will not be able to watch anything like it again.

Well film is over, we are having lots of karate move’s, but we are very much controlling it, he has given us a display of his karate move’s, fallen and banged his head on the TV speaker, picked himself up and carried on. Did some Wii Just Dance for daddy to see, they are now having some timed ‘karate fights’ they have 2 minutes left then Munch is having some calm down time.

Munch went on his Club Penguin until our Saturday take away arrived, we had pizza today, I would like to say it was yummy, but it wasn’t, so I won’t. Afterwards I started to get ready as me and daddy were having a night out tonight, Munch decided he was going to be a pain in the backside, he was up and down the stairs messing with thing’s he should not be, so I told him to go and put his PJ’s on so that if he carried on he could go straight to bed, that cured him and he went downstairs.

Merlin came on so he settled down to watch that and had his supper whilst watching, babysitter arrived, munch promptly threw up, combination of eating quickly and swigging down his drink to quick, puk cleaned up and me and daddy were off.

A few Bacardi’s consumed a good band listened and it was home and bed ready to start a new day.

Ouch, That Hurt.

This morning was a much better start to the day than yesterday, Munch came knocking on the door again asking when were we getting up, this needs to be nipped in the bud, so he will be being informed that there will be no TV on school mornings when he does it, I know his answer will be that it doesn’t matter, but a couple of mornings of having to sit at the kitchen table will soon have the desired effect.

Although Munch was lively this morning, the mood that he was in yesterday had definitely lifted thank goodness, as it used to be that type of mood that we knew would escalate into a full-blown, full on meltdown, it could go on for a few day’s before he would blow, so we must be doing something right to have averted it.

We had to defrost the car this morning for the 1st time this year, and having changed my car a couple of months ago to make it more affordable for me not to return to work, I have to say I really missed my heated windscreen that I had on my last few cars, still beggers can’t be choser’s!!!! We got to school early today, Munch lined up and one of the little girls in his class came and stood next to him and held his hand, he had the biggest smile, and so did I after feeling so sad yesterday morning about him never having a partner to walk in with.

We have Munch’s main Christmas prezzie off Santa but apart from a few bits and piece’s had not got a clue what to get him, so me and hubby took ourselves off to Smyths Toy’s Superstore as Munch always refers to it this afternoon, we now have a long list of things to go and get next week.

From there we went to pick up Munch from school, he came out armed with his school photo’s, and even if a say so myself, what a very handsome son I have, off to the car where as both me and daddy were there Munch had to sit in the back. here was a helium balloon in the back from Sunday, on the drive home he kept pushing the balloon into the front of the car making it difficult to see, he was asked to keep it in the back, again he did it, was told again to keep it in the back and if he did not we would stop and get out and walk, well Munch being Munch just had to push it that bit further and push it into the front again, so car was stopped he was taken out of the car kicking and screaming, hubby walked him home whilst I took the car, the last I saw of them was Munch biting daddy’s arm, then shouting help me help me. 7 minutes after I was home I could hear them coming down the road, Munch was still shouting, still hitting, he was sent straight up to his room.

After 10 minutes I called him down so that we could go to the stay and play session at he children’s centre, we were the only ones there so Munch had a great time playing Connect 4, then football and building a very tall tower with the worker there before we went home.

Things were going swimmingly until it was time for tea, as daddy was off again tonight we had decided to take the opportunity to have a chinese after Munch was in bed. I sat at the table whilst Munch was having his dinner, he did no have a civil word to say, he was talking aggressively, kept making very babyish crying noises and was generally being rude, he had a warning and when he did not stop was told  to go and sit on the step, he refused and said he wanted to eat his tea, I was having none of it and was firm and told him step, he then flew at me punching really hard, I told him to go upstairs as I would not be hit, he protested a little, but i think that he realised that he had well overstepped the mark so went up, I called him down after his 7 minutes and he finished his dinner.

I went on the computer for a short while then went to do his bath, all hell broke out when I was upstairs, so I had to come down and sort both of them out, all over 2 sweets!!!

Munch had his bath, daddy did his hair and dried and got him ready for bed, then Munch ran from his room into the spare room and as he did he caught his foot on the meal bit of the Hoover and cut his foot, he was crying and he his foot was bleeding a fair bit, he actually let me hold onto his foot tightly with a towel round it to stop the bleeding, daddy sat next to him and held him, afterwards he took comfort from both of us, daddy carried him downstairs, and I was able to cuddle him on the sofa, such a difference from him not letting us anywhere near him when he has hurt himself before.

Rest of evening went by without a hitch and one happy and content boy is asleep in his bed right now.

Iffy Day!!!

Bit of an iffy start to this morning, Munch was just in one of those moods where nothing was right, he moaned and groaned on, I just ignored rather than give him the satisfaction of biting and fueling his mood even more, he got sent to the step once for speaking rudely, but we got to school on time. I was a bit upset after dropping him off as it hit me how when they line up they have to do it in pairs, and this morning Munch went and stood next to the girl who was at the end of the line, as soon as the next person came she moved and stood next to them so Munch was on his own, it made me realise that he is always on his own and never has a partner, a had a little cry to myself afterwards, I think I will have a word with his teacher as I do not want him being left out all the time by the other children.

Daddy picked Munch up from school today, when they got in they had a quick game of paper chase where Munch wrote clues and daddy followed them, then we were off to his Express It! group, Munch was very obviously in his mood still, he was not listening and very hyper. On the way over I spoke to him and told him, that if he could no behave and listen to what he was told to do when there we would go home. They were making pizza today, Munch was on form, he was all over the place, still making crying noises, not listening and generally being a pain in the backside, once the pizza’s were ready for cooking we went to play some games, munch just was not listening he was extremely hyper, so I took him outside sat him down to calm down and spoke to him saying that there were no more warnings, if he still behaved as he was we would go home. Back in we went and Munch was still all over the place not listening one bit, so I just said you were warned what would happen, home and step. He refused to put on his shoes, said he would not leave, so I just picked up his jumper, coat and shoes and walked to the door. Munch followed me, I asked him to put on his shoes, he refused, so I just said fine walk home without them then and took hold of his hand and walked, he pulled but I just keep going, we go as far as the gate and he wanted to put his shoes on, I stopped for him to put his shoes on with out letting go, he was shouting he waned his pizza, I told him he had been warned wha would happen, he had chosen to carry on the way he did, so it was down to him that he had missed out on his pizza, he hit and kicked, I just kept saying firmly it was not allowed and he could not behave like that, he tried biting my arm, and holding on to things as we walked past, I  just kept going, at one point someone in a van shouted out of their window, well I shall not print here what Munch shouted after them, needless to say the air was very blue!!!

We got home just as daddy was about to leave for work, we got in I just said step, he sat but he was make very load, very false crying noises, half way through he went quiet and just sat there, he then said I really want my pizza, daddy said if you sit and do the rest of your time quietly we can go back as long as you apologise to everyone else for spoiling their time, luck for Munch that daddy was there as I would not have taken him back, I should point out that he centre is only a couple of minutes walk from us. So back we went and Munch was much quieter and did manage to behave for the remaining time we were there, all though the hyper levels were beginning to creep up.

Back at home Munch was still in a funny mood, so I run his bath early. He had his bath, watched TV until his usual bedtime, supper and daddy took Munch to bed as by now daddy had decided to take the night off (he is self-employed), they had not been up there  very n long before I could hear Munch making a crying noise again and daddy was downstairs, Munch was most upset to have missed his snuggle time so I went up and we had a shorter time, he talked in a very babyish voice to start with but gradually lost it. Daddy came up and they had a cuddle and a bit of tickling time, and thankfully, the mood that had been so visible over Munch today disappeared so lets hope it’s still gone in the morning.

Two Important Letters

Munch knocked on our bedroom door at 7am to ask if it was time to get up yet, he was sent back to bed for another 1/2 hour. Morning routine went well and we walked to school as I was going out straight after.

So after dropping Munch of I took myself of to my work so that I could hand in the 2 letters I had written last night, the 1st was to say that I would be returning to work on the 1st January and would like to drop my shifts to 1 per week (I work 12 1/2 hour shifts). The 2nd was to say that I was resigning as of the 31st March, that will be the 12 weeks that I have to work so I don’t have to pay back my adoption leave pay. The A/L that I have accumulated over the 12 months I have been off will more than cover my 1 shift per week, so a weight lifted I will not have to go back to work at all, a bit scary money wise, but I am sure we will get by.

Afterwards, I had a lovely walk along the South Bank of the Thames, the Christmas Market was there so I had a mooch around. I then crossed over the river to the Embankment where I met hubby for a lovely Starbucks and some noodles from Wasabi’s before getting the train home again.

Fetched Munch from school after his film club, asked him what he watched, but as usual, did not get a straight answer, asked what he had for dinner, and he said broccoli and jelly beans, which I suppose makes a change from his usual answer of pizza, burger and chicken nuggets.

We had a very uneventful evening, and I am now off to have a lovely soak in the bath.

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