Our Celebrations

Well a lot has happened in adoption term’s since I last posted, we had a great week a couple of weeks ago, it started with a great Celebration Hearing at our local County Court, Granny, Grampy, Auntie, Uncle, big cousin and our SW all attended with us. The look of pure joy on Munch’s face when he received his Certificate will stay with me for ever and boy did that certificate take some getting off him!!!!

Afterwards we all apart from our SW who had another meeting to attend, took the train into London and had a lovely meal in The Rainforest Cafe. On entering they asked if we were celebrating anything special, when we said it was Munch’s Adoption day they gave him a Happy Birthday Sticker!!! He was happy enough with it though.

The following day his class held a party for him, he had a ball, me and my mum took in some picky party food bits, they gave him a fabulous card that had lile individual cards of each child in his class, and also all the teachers had written in it to, he was happy to see that the head mistress had written in it as well. Some of the messages that the children had written were fab, our favorite by far really made us laugh, one of the girls ha wrote, Dear Munch – I hope your 2nd mum and dad come through!!!! Out of the moths of children… I also got asked one morning by another little girl was I Munch’s new parent. A few of te parents actually spoke to me too, it’s only taken them 18 months!!!

On the Saturday we had a big BBQ for all our family and friends, and it was lovely how many people came to help us celebrate, Munch and we had some lovely present’s which were not expecting, we had a Bouncy Castle for the kids, my mum and I did a big buffet, the BBQ was on the go all afternoon and on into the early evening, we had lots of people dropping in during the day and the last people left at almost mid-night, Munch handled the day wonderfully we had a few moments, but our boy is getting there a couple of times he took himself off to his bedroom to have a ‘cool down’.

We have had another session with CAMHS, our 4th one, this one was with Munch, so now the family therapist will be making her recommendation’s so we will just have to wait now.

Munch has now earned his orange belt at karate, and is doing really well.

At school we had his sat results, he got significantly above his age for maths and science, and above average for his age in all other subjects apart from his writing, but that has so improved from how it used to be so we could not be prouder of our boy. The school once again have been fantastic in helping his transition from them to Junior School in September, they have done extra visit’s with him and one of the TA’s took him over with a camera and they took lots of pictures of the school and teachers and today he brought home a little book he had made with all the photo’s in so that he can look at it over the 6 weeks. We are just hoping that the Junior school is going to be so on the ball regarding his needs as the Infants have been.

Our last bit of adoption related news is that we have started the ball rolling for number two this week, we have spoken with our original SW who left just after Munch was placed and she is coming for an initial informal meeting in September as we wanted to get the 6 weeks over with 1st.

Another Bank Holiday Weekend

We have some ups and downs over the bank holiday weekend.

Thursday after school we went ice-skating which he loves, I had ordered him some hockey boots which had come during the week that fitted as the other ones I bought were to big, so he was very pleased to have them and in a good mood, it was was a late night after the skating, so straight home and off to sleep.

Friday was Royal Wedding Day, Munch was not in the least bit interested and some how me and his dad found ourselves relegated to the kitchen to watch it, munch came in a few times o ask what he could do and then went in to the living room and must have sat building with his lego for a good 2  hours.

In the afternoon we had been invited to a BBQ by hubby’s cousin, we were a couple of hours late getting there, but in our defense, any BBQ’s we have had or been to have always been people cooking a bit here and there and they always go on all afternoon and night, when we got there they had a big marquee set up and had waited for us to arrive before cooking then everyone sat down together and ate!!!

Munch was the only child there, hubby’s cousin’s step daughters are older teens and they had a fair few friends there, they were great with Munch and one of them had her boyfriend there who Munch sort of fixed himself to but for a teenage boy he was fabulous and even though we offered to take Munch away he would not have it and took him under his wing. A bit later they started playing Charades, they tried to include Munch but by then he was tired and very grouchy and at this point we decided to leave as he was doing a lot of crocodile tears and they were trying to have a good time, Munch shout and cried that he wanted to stay, but we just said no and went home.

Saturday we just had an ordinary day, a bit of shopping, we were in and out for varies things several times and Munch was very good throughout, so a good day Saturday.

Yesterday, the morning did not start off good, Munch was sent to the step for his attittude, he did not like it and he got very physical, pushing me in the face with his hands and refusing to go on the step, I did not retaliate as I could tell that it would just escalate into a much worse situation, he then started his horrible sneering where he does this awful manic laugh, I just though I am not putting up with this and told him to go upstairs because I did not want to see him for the rest of the day, not very therapeutic, but I just think sometimes you have to draw the line somewhere for your own sanity, he was saying no. I just went into the living room and closed the door, and lent on it because he was pushing and kicking it, l;ess then 30 seconds later he took himself off upstairs, he called down about 15 minutes later asking when he could come down, I said that I had not liked his behavior and as I had said I did not want to see him, he must have stayed up there for another 4 minutes and then came down and said that he was sorry, I asked him why he was sorry and when he gave me a reasonably explanation I said ok and let him stay down.

One of the things we have been doing after after step just lately is getting him to say sorry for what he has done, I know the play therapist said at the end of his time to just carry on and to just mention it later, but we have decided that we do feel that he needs to know why he is having to sit on the step and why and to learn to apologies for his action’s.

The rest of the day went by nicely, we went and had a picnic at a local adventure playground, then later on picked daddy up from the pub as he had been watching football with friends, Munch had a very long game of pool with daddy!!

Today we have had a quiet day, went to nanny’s house to pick up a few bits before it is sold, Munch picked a couple of bits to keep, he is having her TV and he was very pleased to have her radio and CD play and has been playing music in his room, he has now been in bed for an hour and 15 minutes and is still calling down!!!!