2nd Week of Easter Holiday’s and Easter Weekend

The Easter Holiday’s seem to have gone by in a blur, during the 2nd week Munch was bouncing a little and we did have to keep thing’s in check a bit he was very hyper and we had a few nose bleeds which are alway’s a sign that he is out of his comfort zone.

Thing’s were still very much all over the place in the aftermath of nanny passing away, routines where still out of the window, so considering all that we did get away lightly really compared to other time’s and hopefully now we are back at school thing’s will get back onto an even keel. We do have a couple of odd week’s coming up though with Royal Wedding’s, bank holiday’s and the school being closed for election day!!!

We had a lovely if not busy Easter Weekend, on Friday we visited Kids Space, it was good as it was fairly quiet as people were enjoying the sun. On the Saturday we took a picnic to Coram Field’s in London which is a lovely area, people can only go in if they have children with them, no adults only, they have a paddling pool, animal’s, play area’s, sand pit’s, we set up camp, and Munch was able to go off and play, they have someone on the entrance so children cannot go out. We only saw Munch every now and again when he came by for food or just to say hello.

On Easter Sunday we went to visit relative’s down on the South Coast, Munch loved having the day with his big cousin and as soon as we got there reverted to talking with a babyish voice, we had a great BBQ, then we all went to an adventure play ground, Munch tried to be very controlling when there, and sulked a fair bit when not getting his own way, he was being very contrary, saying he wanted to do something and then not wanting to when someone went to help him, then when they went off to do something else wanting to do it again, but nobody was giving into him so he had to give up in the end. From there we went to the beach, Munch and his cousin were so brave and went in the sea!!!! He was very put out because the beach was pebbles and he wanted to know where the sand was.

We went back to their house and before we knew it was 9pm, se we left as we had a 2 hour drive home, Munch actually slept in the car on the way home.

On Easter Monday when  Munch came into us he said that he had been sick during the night, when I went into his room his bed was covered in vomit, I asked him why he had not called for us and he said he knew he was being sick but he was sleeping!! Poor child had slept in a bed covered in vomit. He did not want any breakfast which is very unusual for him, he went off to Smyths to spend his Easter Money with daddy. When they came back we had arranged to meet the Ozzy relatives for the afternoon so that they could see Munch again before they go home later on this week, we picked them up and went to a local bar and Restaurant that has a play area and bouncy castle for kids, we ordered lunch and Munch had his usual, Spag Bol, he only ate the bolognaise sauce, and when we got home he just lay on the sofa until bed time and even asked to got to bed!!!

Yesterday was 1st day back at school after the Easter Holiday’s, Munch got up only ate half his breakfast and was sick again, so I phoned school to say he wouldn’t be in, he spent most of the morning in bed, he ate a little at lunch time, but again just lay on the sofa, about tea time he suddenly got up went to the fridge and got him self a bit of Easter Egg, and from there on in he was back to his normal self.

So in all besides our very sad news about MIL passing away, Easter although hectic has been good, we could have had much worse and are very proud of how our little boy has handled thing’s, me and hubby often look back to how thing’s were this time last year and cannot believe the progress that Munch has made, we in ourselves have chilled and have learnt so much over the last 15 months.

The one thing we are very sure about is that we love our little Munch with all our hearts and cannot imagine life with out him, and cannot wait to get our court dates.

A Few Up and Down Days.

Well since our 1st Year Anniversary, or as Munch kept calling it, our Family Day, on Tuesday things have been a little up and down here. Munch has tried to be very controlling and a lot of the contrary behaviour he display’s sometimes has been back with vengeance the last few day’s. We are sure it is all to do with the time of year it is, and if we are honest it is not nearly as bad as it has been in the past, it’s just I think you get lulled into the sense of easiness and then something show’s up.

We are supposed to be recommencing Munch’s Play Therapy some time soon, but both myself and Munch’s SW have been phoning her and just constantly get her answer machine we have left messages but she has not returned them. When Munch’s SW emailed her she said she would be either starting today or on Tuesday, so who know’s, I think she is proberly still waiting to be paid by the LA!!! Still I am a little annoyed that she has not even bothered to answer the messages I have left especially as on her last visit she said you can always phone me.

We have our review next week, we are hoping it will be our last. Hopefully our Adoption Order will go through with out a hitch and we can then start all over again soon after for number 2. I have all ready been in touch with our 1st SW, buttering her up 😉

Starting the School Holiday as we Mean to go on!

This morning started well, we were up into party cloths for school and out, no de-icing of the car needed and we were in school on time.

I finished off  my christmas shopping today so just food which I was hoping to do tomorrow morning before Munch finished at Lunch time, but no such luck as got a text from school saying that they are finishing for Christmas holiday’s today because of the weather, I am not looking forward to shopping in Tesco’s with Munch in tow tomorrow.

Picked Munch up, out he came wearing his party hat, he had not even got to he gate before he had opened his present from school. All evening Munch has had an attitude on him, he has tried to be very controlling and I have discussed with hubby that we need to be on top over the next few day’s and routine and consistency are going to be what we have to keep up with. We will not be able to give him any room to try and take control and we need to be on top at all time, using our – not allowed – STEP.

I have had to put him on he step several times today already, and at one point when he started kicking because he had been sent to the step, he was immediately sent to his bedroom, every time he said no, I added a minute, every time  I had to asked him to go up and he didn’t I added a minute he soon got he picture and went, and in fact when his time was up he stayed up in his room playing.

We have laid down a couple of things for the holiday, 1 – that he will be allowed an hour on the computer each day, no more and 2 – he will be expected to spend at least an hour every day playing in his room or else he will be constantly under my feet and I will never get anything done.

We have had a couple of games of Junior Monopoly this evening, thank goodness I know Santa is bringing some different games for Christmas.

Hopefully once we get Christmas and the New Year over and he realises that he is staying put things will get back on track again.

Feeling Sad

This morning went ok and off to school went Munch without a hitch.

When I picked him up we had the proof for our 1st solo school photo, they had a class photo last term. It is lovely now to decide which pack to buy. Munch finally managed to bring a reading book home which he read really well, although I do have to say it was a very easy one for him, so I have commented on the fact in our book we write how hey have done in. We then did some jigsaw puzzles together, Munch did them well, but all the time he was doing them he had attitude, telling me not to do things and generally being very stroppy and trying to be controlling. We finished our puzzles and Munch went of to use the computer.

Rest of the evening went as normal until after I had got Munch out of the bath, he likes to lie on his bed and be dried and helped into his pyjamas, all him regressing back to things that he missed out on when he was younger, today though he screamed and shouted at me for drying his hair, so I just said that I would not be spoken to like that anymore and he was to dry and dress himself, que lots of I didn’t mean it mummy, please help me, all things that I have heard time and time again, I just said again that no I would not help him, maybe next time he would think about how he spoke to me.

Routine followed right up till the last thing we do after story and before hug and kiss good-night, I always get Munch a glass of water as I was going out of the room to fetch it he called me nasty, another thing that he does regularly, so I took a stand again and took back his glass of water, put it down and just said, good-night Munch, I am leaving the room with a hug or kiss as I am not going to be called nasty by you any more, and left again to sorry mummy didn’t mean it mummy, again, heard it all before. I just firmly said no, maybe next time you will think before you call anybody names.

A little after Munch called down, something he will do when things are playing on his mind and asked for cream, a lile ritual we do some evening, especially if he needs reassuring, I started putting he cream on his fingers as we do and again he was aggressive in he way that he asked, or rather told me to do something. So I just put the cream down and said tha I would not continue after being spoken to like that, again with the sorry and he didn’t mean it, but I left and said that i was a sad that he felt that he needed to speak to me like that when we were doing something nice and left.

Whilst writing this I have been up again as he does need that reassurance after incidents like this hat things are ok, hopefully he is now going to sleep.

I think on reflection tonight, I have realised how much he does speak to us constantly like that, and talking to hubby we feel that we need to start making it clear to him that it is not acceptable, he would not have dreamed of talking to his FC’s like that, and we do not want him going through life think that it is ok to talk to others like that. So if it mean’s being hard on him for a while, then that is what is going to happen. Tomorrow the Play Therapist will be visiting for one of her session’s so we shall also speak to her about it.