A Strange Time!!

Where does the time go I cannot believe it has been 10 days since I last posted.

We have had a week of the Easter School holiday’s as well. It’s been a strange time as we had MIL funeral during the week. Munch on the whole has coped very well, we have had some regression and he has needed reassurance along the way but has coped well. We did not take him to the funeral but did take him to the church the night before when the church received the body, he was a bit worried about nanny snoring in her box and asked did she have  a pillow in their with her!!!

We have not done much over the week, we went ice skating one day and as usual was there from start to finish, on the day of the funeral Munch went to an activity day and apart from that we have muddled through, routine has gone out of the window with late night’s and all of us having a bit of a lay in, in the morning’s, I am sure we will pay for it at a later date.

We have had to use the step a few times and today whilst out shopping we had to leave before any shopping got done.

I enquired about our referral to CAHM’s this week and I know our case has been discussed and we will be contacted within 8 – 12 weeks, 4 of which have already passed.

What has been noticeable whilst other people have been around is that you see thing’s more through others eye’s, I have noticed how everything is done as my dad kept saying a 140 miles an hours, he does not stop and is constantly on the go, when we go ice skating he will practical skate solidly for 5 1/2 hours and then come home and play football with his dad for 2 hours!!!

The one thing though is he is into his movies and will sit quietly to watch one, as he is doing now.

Hopefully thing’s will get back to normal here now and I will try to update more often.

Munch 1 – SW 0

Well what a week we have had, and Munch has been the star of it.

We had a great weekend which started on Friday evening when me and Munch went to Kids Kingdom for a couple of hours, Saturday we were ice skating all day again, Munch had his new ice skates and found them a bit funny to start with but he soon got the hang of them.

Whilst there at one point Munch could not find me so he was very good and went to one of the ice marshalls, so lots of praise for going to a staff member. He also made friends with a boy who was there with his mum, what can I say about the mum, she looked completely out of it, was very inappropriate with the things she was saying and reminded me of photo’s I have seen of birth mum, oh dear, she insisted on giving me her phone number and was telling Munch how we can visit them and how in a couple of weeks when I knew her better that he could spend the day with them and I could go shopping!!! I very politely distanced us from them.

On Monday we had our review, it had  been planned so that our play therapist could provide a report with recommendations with regards to the ongoing support we are going to need as a family, Munch’s SW did his usual and did not pick up the report off his emails and came with out it, him and the reviewing officer travelled over 200 miles for what, the reviewing officer was not happy, Munch’s SW managed to put it all on the Play Therapist, we were told that there is no more money for them to travel here for another review, which is a pile of crap, if we needed a review they would have to find the money. Anyway review proceeded with out the report, lasted about 3/4 hours and off they trundled on their 200 mile journey home.

Tuesday was our penultimate play therapy session, play therapist was not a happy bunny as she had spent a lot of time and effort doing a very in-depth report for the review and had emailed it to Munch’s SW last week.

Wednesday, our 2nd trip to A & E in just over 3 weeks, we received the dreaded phone call from school to say Munch had fallen in the playground and banged the back of his head on a bench and had a nasty cut, so of we went again. The nurse who glued his head managed to glue her hand to his head as well, so Munch is very pleased with the piece of purple glove he has stuck on his head and enjoyed being the centre of attention in the play ground before school this morning showing it off!!

Today I have been on a Life Story Workshop, which was very informative and helped a lot with starting to do some life story work here with Munch, it was also nice to meet up with other adoptive parents, and 2 of the mums who I have kept in touch with since we did our prep groups were there and we went for a glass of wine afterwards and a good old chat.

Now for the best bit of our week, tonight was parents evening, and what a glowing report we got, Munch has really come on and is doing so well, he is above average in his reading and maths for the END of the school year and we are only half way through the year!!!!! He is doing well in all other areas too, so mummy and daddy left the school with great big grins on our faces, we could not be prouder of our boy, considering the last year that is such an achievement.

P.S. forgot to mention, the cut to his finger today, we have joked with him, what is it tomorrow, his big toe? an ear?

And Another Week.

Well a whole week has gone by since I last posted and we have had another good week.

We went ice skating on Saturday, first time since Munch cut his head and had to have it glued, it was as if nothing happened and he was away like a good one, we certainly get our money’s worth because he insists on staying till the end. We have now bought him his own skates and he cannot wait to get to the rink again to try them out, so we know what we will be doing on Saturday.

Sunday Munch spent most of the day watching Movies in his pants!! He has taken a liking to watching films and has watched a good few over the last week.

Monday I  got the dreaded ‘can I have a word’ from his class teacher, apparently Munch had been calling out and had pinched some of the children, his class teacher had not been there for the afternoon so he had another teacher and he does not do change well. I made all the right noises, but basically am doing what his play therapist has said to do, and that is acknowledge it with Munch but otherwise let the school deal with it as we have enough to deal with here, so it was just a case of ‘I don’t want to be called aside by your teacher tomorrow’ and left at that.

Also on Monday Munch started football training which he thourly enjoyed, then Tuesday Beaver’s, and his Karate Wednesday, today we went to kids Kingdom which is a soft play area, tomorrow after school I am doing nothing!!!

I myself have started following the Slimming World eating plan this week, I did very well on it a few years back, but gradually the weight has crept back on and over the last year it has really crept back up, I was not back to what I was at my heaviest, but nearly. I have added the weight loss ticker to try to motivate myself more, so far I have lost 2 lbs which I am pleased with, my aim is 1-11/2 lbs a week.

Anyway I am hoping for another good week in the Munch household, so watch this space.

A Trip To A & E

Well another 3 times making it a total of 6 times Munch called down last night, all answered with ‘good-night Munch, love you, see you in the morning’ an he was asleep by 9.30pm.

This morning he woke up when daddy got up to go to work at 8.15, he got up and had a cup of tea and breakfast with daddy, then came and got back into bed with me, Munch watched tv for 1/2 hour then we got up.

Last night I had planned on taking Munch to the cinema this morning to watch Yogi Bear in 3D, I loved Yogi Bear when I was a kid, but as soon as we got up he asked to go ice skating, and I knew that it would be an all day activity as he loves it, so off we went. We had been there an hour when they resurfaced the ice, we got drinks and sat at the side. At this point I think I should point out that I have difficulty standing up in the boots let alone skating in them. Munch is off like a whippet and I cling on to the edge and make my way around slowly.

Once the ice was finished, Munch wanted to go straight back on, so I said that I would finish my coffee before going back on and off he went, 5 minutes later I heard a big shout, and the next thing I see is a man skating carrying Munch with blood pouring everywhere, now I am trying to run in those silly boots to the other end of the rink, the man passed Munch to me so I was trying to stand and hold Munch whilst pressing my hand against a gash on his forehead, a couple of ladies came and gave me tissue’s and a young boy went and fetched one of the ice marshall’s who immediately whipped him off to the First Aid Room, again with me trying to keep up in my skates.

Munch had about a 3/4 inch quite deep gash on his head, they cleaned it up and put the biggest bandage on it, Munch was really pleased with that, but not so pleased when we said he had to go to A & E, he just wanted to go back out skating!!!

Now we were very lucky in that we have a brand new hospital in our area that opened not so long ago, and it just happens to have been built right behind the Ice Arena, so we literally only had a 2 minute walk to A & E. In all we were there for 3 1/2 hours, daddy came from work, once we got in to see the doctor, he took one look and was almost rude and was, is that it, it’s only needs a few steri strips and walked off, but when the nurse came armed with all her steri strips, she said that it was deep and needed glueing, so one glued head and home we came.

After all that we decided to let Munch decide on tea and he wanted a Chinese Buffet, oh he does like a buffet, so Chinese order and eaten a bit of TV and computer, bedtime routine done and it is now almost 10pm and he has only called down once about 15 minutes after he went to bed to shout ‘love you’, to which we answered ‘love you too’.

21/11 – Visiting Big Cousin

Today we got up a bit earlier than normal on a weekend as we were going to visit family as it had been Munch’s big cousin’s 12th birthday on Friday. Munch was very excited and was very busy organising himself till we left,  he got a bag with enough toy’s in it for a week ready, his pillow and fleece for the care. He was very pleased to be allowed to sit in the front of the car for the 2 hour journey, and as usual was very good whilst travelling.

When we got there he was very excited to see everyone as granny was staying there as well. Munch went and played for a while with BC (big cousin) upstairs for a while, then they came down stairs and BC was showing him some of her jujitsu moves, Munch enjoyed this but was very excited and was getting a bit carried away, he was told to calm down a few times, then he slapped BC really hard, usual speech, step.

We then all went ice-skating, something I have only done 3 times before many, many years ago and not very well either, we hired Munch a penguin, which was something for hom to hold onto whilst skating, my SIL put his boots on whilst I was struggling with mine, and took him to the ice and put him on with his Uncle and BC, she said he said “I don’t like it” and was off like a shot with his penguin. I gingerly made my way around the rink clinging to the edge for dear life, Munch was like a whippet with his penguin, going round and round. We did laugh though, his legs were everywhere, he ended up sitting on the ice I don’t know how many times, he kept shouting “mummy, look at me, I’m doing the splits”. He loved it, was soaking wet by the time we finished, but a very good time was had by all.

We went and had Sunday lunch in a local restaurant, then when back for an hour before leaving for home. Munch did not go to bed until 9.30pm. I don’t think his head was on the pillow before he was asleep.