The High’s and Then Very Low Finish to the Weekend.

We had a lovely Saturday, we got up early and me and Munch had a lift off daddy up to Madame Tussaud’s, it was not somewhere I would have taken Munch but as we have Merlin Annual Passes had nothing to lose and he did enjoy it even though he didn’t know who the wax models were. He enjoyed the taxi ride and 4D film at the end. I always find rides are good for our attachment as well as Munch always wants you to hold him really tightly, I think this is because he has an valide reason for you to cuddle him.

Afterwards we went to the Science Museum and again he liked it here, we only saw a very small part of it as he was very interested in the Launch Pad area were it has lots of interactive things for children to do and also the area to do with Space, so I can see lots of visits to the Science Museum happening.

He was well-behaved all day and the few little bits of attitude we had were easily dealt with by saying that we would have to go home if they continued and he did not want to go home.

Sunday started off well, Munch used the computer for a short while, then watched a film, St Trinian’s of all film’s, but he was engrossed in it so I left him to it, then we went swimming.

His swimming is coming on a treat, he is very confident now and does not need his armbands at all, he is swimming a little on his own and I am sure with a few more visits before we go away he is going to just love the pool.

On the way home Munch’s attitude was that of a stroppy teenager again, so he was told that as soon as we got in he was to go on his step, he then though it was going to be a good idea and mimic me in a silly voice about the step, he didn’t think it was such a good idea when he was told that instead of 7 minutes on the step he had earned himself 30 minutes upstairs.

After his 30 minutes upstairs he watch Aliens vs. Monsters, we had dinner, then played Junior Monopoly, before his usual TV before bed. Daddy came home from work and Munch asked if rather than TV we could play a game of Monopoly again which we agreed to.

After supper was had and up to get ready for bed Munch went, all going very pleasantly. Munch went into he bathroom and hid behind the bathroom door, something he used to do all the time, but has not done for a long time. I went in put his toothpaste on his brush and called him, he came from behind the door and I was standing with my back to it and pushed me really hard making me stumble forward a little as I was not expecting it, now normally it would have been you cannot push people like that, it is not allowed – step, but as it was bedtime and I felt that he had been playing for time at supper, sending him to sit on the step would have been playing right into his hands, so I said that it was wrong and that tomorrow night he would come to bed at 7.30 instead of 8pm, He just flipped he started hitting and kicking and swearing, saying it had been an accident, I was in his way, I explained to him that all he had to do was say excuse me please and I would have moved, which made him rage more, I said that hitting and being aggressive was not allowed so knocked another 1/2 off his bedtime, he started hitting and saying unless I let him go to bed at 8.30pm he was no going to stop, by then I had got him in his bedroom, he was pulling my hair, hitting and kicking, kept repeating that if I didn’t let him stay up until 8.30 he was going to carry on, every time I tried to leave the room he had hold of my clothing or my hair and was screaming for me not to go, then he was biting. I just kept saying no he was going to bed at 7pm tomorrow as he could no expect go behave like this and stay up late, he had to take the consequences of his action’s. I picked him up and put him into his bed as he was refusing to get in, he had hold of my hair in both hands pulling so hard, where do they get teir strenght from when they are having these meltdowns!!!! Now this where I am not very proud of myself, but he was pulling so hard and I could not get him to let go, that I pulled his hair back, and the shock of it made him let go immediately, he said you are not allowed to hurt me, I just said but you were really hurting me and now you know what it feels like, I just said our usual goodnight blardy blar, and left the room, feeling horrible with what I had done.

I left it for 15 minutes and went upstairs on the pretence of going to the loo as Munch had been very quiet, and that has not been him just lately when in bed. As I was going upstairs, he asked is that you mummy in the sweetessed of voices as if nothing had happened, I went in he was playing his DS in bed, I apologies for pulling his hair, he asked if he could stay up till his normal time tomorrow, I stuck to my gun’s and said no, told him that he should not be playing his DS in bed and he was to finnish what he was doing and put it down, there was no calling out or anything afterwards, he jus finished and went off to sleep.

I hold my hands up and say I was completely at a loss as how to handle the situation, thank goodness for our Play Therapist, it shall be top of my agenda on Tuesday to get some help and guidance on how to deal with things when step is playing right into his hands.

So the weekend started on a high and ended up on a an extreme low 😦

Bank Holiday Tuesday

Munch came into us at 8.30 to ask if he could put his Xbox on, we then went down at 9am. this morning has been good, we had one visit to the step for not listening, and Munch is now upstairs quietly playing with his Lego, so I have made the most of coffee and computer time.

We had a trip out today, as Munch has been so well-behaved over Christmas daddy said that Munch could choose between either another controller or a game for his Xbox, so we went off to Smyths Toys, the Xbox controller was £40, we looked at the Xbox games all the one’s Munch wanted were to old for him, he started to get a bit stroppy, and then shouted at me that I was not letting him buy anything, he know’s very well that he cannot have games that are to old for him and I was not going to be shouted at, so I told him that we had to leave the shop, he begged and pleaded, with me all the way back to the car that it was an accident and he didn’t mean to talk to me like that, he was sorry, he woudn’t do it again, you know the same old thing that all parents hear a hundred times. I just said that he was not allowed to talk to me like that and to get into the car.

We made our way to Tesco’s, in the car I told him that we would look to see if they had what he wanted there, but one step out of line and that would be it, nothing, this kept him in line, and he behaved well, a bit lively and gave a few of the other shoppers a smile on there faces with his extremely loud sing about how he loved his mummy and wants to kiss and hug her!!!!

We got his Xbox controller for £25, what a difference in price, I was gad I  had not got it in Smyths, £15 is a big difference and how do the justify that amount.

We went to the cafe to have a bite to eat before coming home, tried to set up the extra controller on the Xbox, but could not do it and Munch is on the sofa watching E.T. as I type this, before looking up how to do his controller.

Well Munch lasted about 1/2 way through E.T. before getting board, he was quiet though until dinner as he was sticking his Harry Potter stickers into their album.

After dinner we had  a couple of games of Junior Monopoly and a game of Catch Me if You Can before TV, daddy came in just after so we had another game of Junior Monopoly before bed. Daddy offered to do bedtime as I have had the most dreadful cough for the last few day’s and it is making me feel awful.

I have already been upstairs once, Munch play’s daddy up something rotten when daddy does bedtime, I have just come down again after going up there and telling daddy to stop his story as he was talking all the way through it!!! Thinking, need to get daddy to do bedtime more often.

Christmas and Other Thing’s Taking it’s Toll

This morning was the 2nd morning on a trot that we have gotten up and the feeder pipe to the central heating has been frozen, yesterday it did de-frost mid morning, but with today’s forecast I cannot see it de-frosting today.

I let Munch have a lay in as he was sound asleep and was not sure if school was going to be open, at 8.10 got a text to say it was definitely open so went and woke Munch up, bless him he was sound asleep and woke up a bit like he did not know what was happening, he lingered in bed for a bit before coming down, a bit teary and in one of his contrary moods, oh dear though I, here we go again, he was moaning he did not have time to eat his toast, making his load crying noises, he hit himself on the forehead with the chocolate side of his toast so he had a big chocolate patch on his head, kept saying we were going to be late, I explained once that we were not and that it was up to him if he ate his toast or not as he was the only one who would be hungry, nobody else, and left him to it and went and got dressed.

By the time I had come down stairs, his mood had completely changed he was happy, giggly and just a joy to be with, breakfast was ate, medicine taken well, TEETH, brushed beautifully!!! Dressed and we were out trying to de-frost the car, it was so cold the de-icer was not working well, when I finally got in the car the temperature was reading -6.

We got to school a few minutes late along with most other people I think, realised in the haste to get out I had forgotten Munch’s dinner money, never mind, I told them and said I would bring I when I picked him up.

Daddy picked Munch up from school, and from the moment he got in he was full on,  I think with the excitement of Christmas only being day’s away and also with all that must be going around in his little head, it is not making for a good place for him at the moment. We had a little while on the computer, then we wrote his Christmas cards for school tomorrow. All the time though, he has attitude, he was sent to sit on the step once, but he was very lucky it was only once.

As daddy was no working tonight I did Munch’s dinner, we all then had a game of Junior Monopoly, Munch was finding it hard tonight and had reverted to crying and not being able to accept some of the rules, all again I am sure because of the uncertainty he must be feeling at the moment, we just supported him and talked him through it and he became a little calmer and played nicely.

We are making sure that we talk as much as we can about things in the future, but still when you are only 7, goodness know’s what must be going through his poor little mind.

After the game had finished Munch had 1/2 hour TV before supper and bed, he is looking shattered, his cough is really beginning to take its toll on him, he was coughing much more today to the point of being sick again. What is on his chest is obviously starting to loosen up, hence his cough getting worse before it gets better.

Once he was in bed and had his story, snuggle time and cream today, me and hubby ordered a Chinese, just as we were tucking in a little voice called down, “save me some please”.

My Poorly Boy

Morning was fine this morning, just a normal morning in our house, gosh I have waited 11 months to say that.

I went to one of our local shopping Centre’s and did all of our Christmas shopping so all we have now to do is get the rest of Munch’s bits and piece’s, we know what they are so it’s just a case of heading to Smyth’s Toystore one day very soon.

Picked Munch up from school, he brought out a couple of presents from his nurture group that he goes to on a Wednesday afternoon at school. One was a lovely Christmasy photo frame he had made himself with his photo in, aaahhhh.

We stopped off at the Post Office to pick up a parcel which had a Christmas present in for Munch it has been put under the Christmas Tree for santa’s elves to pick up tonight to take to santa for him to deliver on Christmas Eve!!

We started to build Munch’s Lego that he got yesterday, Munch started to complain of stomach ache and a headache and took himself off and just lay on the sofa wrapped up in daddy’s jumper and his snuggle fleece. He looked very flushed and felt warm to the touch. I just left him there to rest, I asked if he wanted to eat he just wanted 1/2 a slice of toast. After eating the toast he seemed to perk up a bit and wanted to play Junior Monopoly, which we did for 1/2 hour, and he ate another piece of toast, a whole piece this time. After this he just lay on the sofa again and went to bed an hour early, in our bed of course a gave him some calpol and have let him watch TV for an hour.

I shall be tuning it off very soon and shall let him fall asleep in our bed then put him back in his own bed, sod’s law isn’t it that he would be poorly today, it’s my works Christmas, come my Leaving Do tomorrow night, I hope Munch is feeling better as there is no way I will go and leave him like this fingers crossed xxx

Another Lovely Normal day

Munch came into our room at exactly 9am this morning, he got in with us for 5 minutes before we all got up and had breakfast. Daddy went to work and Munch asked if we could play his Junior Monopoly, I said I would that I would play for an hour as I had a few things I wanted to catch up with today I set the timer for 60 minutes as I find this works very well with Munch, I will give him a warning tha we have 5 minutes left and then when the alarm goes he will finish what he is doing, where as with out it can be very hard work to get Munch to stop. In that hour we played 3 games, I won 2 to his 1, Munch was happy about this, a big contrast to what would have happened a few months ago, when he would not of coped with loosing at all.

Whilst I got on with what I needed to do Munch 1st played upstairs for a while, then came down and played Lego for a while. Then he was upstairs he was making me smile as he had made himself as stage out of his storage boxes and was playing his guitar, whilst banging his drum with his foot and singing loudly into his microphone, I think the X Factor has a lot to answer for!!!

We popped out to pick up something for dinner as I though we were going to grampy’s today I had got nothing in for Sunday lunch, in the Super market Munch pushed me, when he bumped himself on the basket so when we got in he did 7 minutes on the step, then he chose to watch a Lassie film, he started off well but got a bit bored with it,  I had to remind him several times that on Sunday afternoon’s we have wind down time, by the time the film had finished daddy was home and had gone upstairs to watch West Ham on the TV, Munch went up for a while and watched it with daddy, they then came and played Junior Monopoly again. Munch was very keen that we had a ‘family’ game of Monopoly.

We had a very late dinner tonight, then Munch had a bath and straight down for supper, he was in a fabulous mood and was laughing and joking with daddy. He gave daddy a big hug, as we were running late it is a school night, Munch had to choose 1 of either, story, snuggle or cream. He chose snuggle, just after we had got ourselves all comfy and snuggled on the bed, he decided he needed to go and fetch daddy to join in snuggle time because he loved him, ah. Daddy came and we all had snuggle time together then hugs and kisses goodnight, not long after we were down Munch called to say he felt sick and had a headache could he sleep in our room, no was the answer, lay down quietly said I and go to sleep, 5 minutes later and he had 1 of his nose bleeds, this was his way of getting attention, at least it was because he wanted to be with us tonight and not because of stress.

Something has changed within Munch in the last couple of day’s, he seems so much more settled, he is very family orientated and is talking about our family and doing family thing’s and it seem’s to me that the happiness and laughing is as if he is accepting and realising that we are his family, I have lost count of the time’s he has told us that he loves us, listened to him singing away to himself, how he loves his mama, how he loves the dog. I will take this for as long as it lasts, and we will drink in every moment of it.

3/12 – No School Again

After sitting up till silly o’clock this morning, Munch came in at 7.30 to ask if he had school today, he was very apologetic, but said he just wanted to know if there was school today, fair enough, and he went back to his room happily once I had told him I did not know yet, alarm went off at 7.45, got up did breakfast and phoned the number we had been given as we had no texts yet from the school, yes school was open, then as soon as I put the phone down got a text saying school was closed, much to Munch’s delight.

We had a peaceful morning as Munch wanted to watch Spy Kids 3 that he had recorded on Sky, then by the time that had finished, daddy was up and they sat and built with the Lego, so still peaceful. Daddy was going to work and me and Munch were going Christmas shopping, but Munch really wanted Daddy to come, so we are lucky that daddy can change his work to suit himself and us, so daddy took today off and off we all went, Munch was a little hyper whilst out, he had £6.61 of his own money to spend and that was all that he went on about, so in the end we ended up just letting munch spend his money, as I had began to feel not well at all, this is the second time in about 6 weeks, both times it has come on very quickly, and so we made our way home.

Daddy had to go to nanny’s to take her some supplies, Munch didn’t want to go, but he has been well-behaved and has played on the computer quietly and is now watch TV, so I can lay down, he is patiently waiting for daddy to come home and hoping that he will play the Junior Monopoly with him, as on nights when he has no school the next day he gets to stay up an hour longer he will be able to stay up till 9pm tonight, as we have just changed his bedtime to 8pm.

Daddy came home and they both played Junior Monopoly until 8.30, then Munch came and watched TV for 1/2 before bed.

School Closed

We had a text from the school just after 7am to say that they would be closed today, I was still in bed so when the alarm went off at 7.45 I just turned it off and turned over. Munch then came in at 8.30 to ask when we were getting up, how lovely a 3/4 hour lay in. Munch jumped in with us for about 15 minutes before we got up.

Daddy and Munch had bacon sandwiches for breakfast, we then asked Munch to go and play for a while upstairs on his own as this is something he never does and needs lots of encouragement to do, he came down several times during that time to ask if it was time to come down, and he just put the Sky on in our room, I think that I shall be encouraging playing on his own time from now on, but our room will be out-of-bounds.

I had decided to go to a near by shopping centre to do some Christmas shopping, get myself some Wellington’s, and have some lunch. I was getting ready to do so when Munch decided to jump on daddy whilst daddy was holding a hot cup of tea, he was immediately sent to the step for this, Munch did his usual saying, that he hadn’t done anything, daddy really has not got the hang of this step consequence and got up and started arguing back with Munch, instead of the ignoring him bit, Munch is now thriving on this and poked his tongue out at daddy promoting daddy to say, that’s it you’re not going out now, which incensed me because I was not something that Munch wanted to do in particular, it was something that I needed to do, but once said there is no going back.

So daddy has gone to work I am indoors with a little boy who was bouncing of the walls, 2 more step sessions and we are now sitting quietly watching The 12 Dog’s of Christmas on Christmas 24, peace.

Once the film had finished we went to Asda’s to get a few bits and pieces, we had a bite to eat  whilst there then grabbed our bits and came home, I was hoping that they might have some Wellington’s and a sledge, but they didn’t.

Back at home we had a drink before putting back on all our warm cloths and going in the garden for half an hours fun in the snow. Munch was really enjoying himself, he did not stop laughing all the time we were out there, when we were to cold and wet for anymore, we came in and I made some lovely hot chocolate, afterwards I prepare dinner, Munch went and played with his Lego until it was done.

Munch in the back garden

We had salmon steaks, with new potatoes, veg and Hollandaise Sauce. Munch had salmon when he fist came and ate the lot, one taste today and he was spitting it out, I mention this because, I spoke to a play therapist at our  Agency a few months after Munch came about the fact that when he 1st came he ate absolutely anything we gave him, he was very possessive of food and due to early life experiences, we had to be for our lives watching what he was storing in his room, he wanted to keep sausages under his pillow, and one of the very 1st things he said to us, was that he was never going to be hungry again, anyway after a few months he started to say that he didn’t like somethings, he PT I was talking to said that it was because when he 1st came to us he would have been so shut down that he would not have been able to taste anything, and as he was starting to settle, he was beginning to get his senses back, interesting stuff.

After dinner Munch wanted to play junior Monopoly again, we did this until it was time to get ready for bed, Munch had asked to have a shower in the morning rather than a bath tonight, which I agreed to. He watched his TV for an hour. Had supper, story, snuggle time and his arms massaged with his special cream, unfortunately he was unable to listen when I asked him to not touch the cream, so we stopped at just arms tonight, hug and kiss and now I am about to have a well-earned coffee before tackling some ironing.

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