Lovely day at Chessington.

Well yet another day off school today as Munch’s was being used as a polling station.

We were going to use our Merlin passes at Thorpe Park, but once we were in the car we decided on Chessington instead. On the way I said to Munch, at last his life was free of Social Works, his answer was ‘until a get a younger brother’. Which show’s that he has taken in all that we have told him about how he came to be our son enough to know that any new child coming would come in the same way.

We had a lovely day at Chessington, it was quiet and we were able to ride most of the rides a couple of times. Munch went on all the big rides that he can now and enjoyed them all. He was very nervous going on Dragon’s Fury but could not wait to get on again once we were off.

On the way home, we had an incident where Munch decided to wipe his shoes on me,I took it off him and put it on the back seat, he started screaming and kicking the dashboard of the car, he’d already had a couple of warnings in the car, I had to stop for milk, so told him to take his seat in the back and that he can spend the next week in he back.

At home Munch had watched TV until lights out.

Last night I had requested some suggestion’s of how to combat Munch’s constant calling out every night after lights out on the AUK forum, the were lots of answers, lot’s of which I had already tried, one which was a bit bazaar, and I few I will try.

Tonight I went with the suggestion of saying that he was allowed 2 call down’s then after that I would not answer, well what can I say 2 hours later and we have only had 2 call down’s!!!! Afer he 2nd I told him he’d had his 2 and he has not called down since. I shall continue with this whilst it lasts, and keep all the other suggestion’s in mind if this one does not work, so watch this space.

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Starting the School Holiday as we Mean to go on!

This morning started well, we were up into party cloths for school and out, no de-icing of the car needed and we were in school on time.

I finished off  my christmas shopping today so just food which I was hoping to do tomorrow morning before Munch finished at Lunch time, but no such luck as got a text from school saying that they are finishing for Christmas holiday’s today because of the weather, I am not looking forward to shopping in Tesco’s with Munch in tow tomorrow.

Picked Munch up, out he came wearing his party hat, he had not even got to he gate before he had opened his present from school. All evening Munch has had an attitude on him, he has tried to be very controlling and I have discussed with hubby that we need to be on top over the next few day’s and routine and consistency are going to be what we have to keep up with. We will not be able to give him any room to try and take control and we need to be on top at all time, using our – not allowed – STEP.

I have had to put him on he step several times today already, and at one point when he started kicking because he had been sent to the step, he was immediately sent to his bedroom, every time he said no, I added a minute, every time  I had to asked him to go up and he didn’t I added a minute he soon got he picture and went, and in fact when his time was up he stayed up in his room playing.

We have laid down a couple of things for the holiday, 1 – that he will be allowed an hour on the computer each day, no more and 2 – he will be expected to spend at least an hour every day playing in his room or else he will be constantly under my feet and I will never get anything done.

We have had a couple of games of Junior Monopoly this evening, thank goodness I know Santa is bringing some different games for Christmas.

Hopefully once we get Christmas and the New Year over and he realises that he is staying put things will get back on track again.

Ouch, That Hurt.

This morning was a much better start to the day than yesterday, Munch came knocking on the door again asking when were we getting up, this needs to be nipped in the bud, so he will be being informed that there will be no TV on school mornings when he does it, I know his answer will be that it doesn’t matter, but a couple of mornings of having to sit at the kitchen table will soon have the desired effect.

Although Munch was lively this morning, the mood that he was in yesterday had definitely lifted thank goodness, as it used to be that type of mood that we knew would escalate into a full-blown, full on meltdown, it could go on for a few day’s before he would blow, so we must be doing something right to have averted it.

We had to defrost the car this morning for the 1st time this year, and having changed my car a couple of months ago to make it more affordable for me not to return to work, I have to say I really missed my heated windscreen that I had on my last few cars, still beggers can’t be choser’s!!!! We got to school early today, Munch lined up and one of the little girls in his class came and stood next to him and held his hand, he had the biggest smile, and so did I after feeling so sad yesterday morning about him never having a partner to walk in with.

We have Munch’s main Christmas prezzie off Santa but apart from a few bits and piece’s had not got a clue what to get him, so me and hubby took ourselves off to Smyths Toy’s Superstore as Munch always refers to it this afternoon, we now have a long list of things to go and get next week.

From there we went to pick up Munch from school, he came out armed with his school photo’s, and even if a say so myself, what a very handsome son I have, off to the car where as both me and daddy were there Munch had to sit in the back. here was a helium balloon in the back from Sunday, on the drive home he kept pushing the balloon into the front of the car making it difficult to see, he was asked to keep it in the back, again he did it, was told again to keep it in the back and if he did not we would stop and get out and walk, well Munch being Munch just had to push it that bit further and push it into the front again, so car was stopped he was taken out of the car kicking and screaming, hubby walked him home whilst I took the car, the last I saw of them was Munch biting daddy’s arm, then shouting help me help me. 7 minutes after I was home I could hear them coming down the road, Munch was still shouting, still hitting, he was sent straight up to his room.

After 10 minutes I called him down so that we could go to the stay and play session at he children’s centre, we were the only ones there so Munch had a great time playing Connect 4, then football and building a very tall tower with the worker there before we went home.

Things were going swimmingly until it was time for tea, as daddy was off again tonight we had decided to take the opportunity to have a chinese after Munch was in bed. I sat at the table whilst Munch was having his dinner, he did no have a civil word to say, he was talking aggressively, kept making very babyish crying noises and was generally being rude, he had a warning and when he did not stop was told  to go and sit on the step, he refused and said he wanted to eat his tea, I was having none of it and was firm and told him step, he then flew at me punching really hard, I told him to go upstairs as I would not be hit, he protested a little, but i think that he realised that he had well overstepped the mark so went up, I called him down after his 7 minutes and he finished his dinner.

I went on the computer for a short while then went to do his bath, all hell broke out when I was upstairs, so I had to come down and sort both of them out, all over 2 sweets!!!

Munch had his bath, daddy did his hair and dried and got him ready for bed, then Munch ran from his room into the spare room and as he did he caught his foot on the meal bit of the Hoover and cut his foot, he was crying and he his foot was bleeding a fair bit, he actually let me hold onto his foot tightly with a towel round it to stop the bleeding, daddy sat next to him and held him, afterwards he took comfort from both of us, daddy carried him downstairs, and I was able to cuddle him on the sofa, such a difference from him not letting us anywhere near him when he has hurt himself before.

Rest of evening went by without a hitch and one happy and content boy is asleep in his bed right now.

Oh Dear!

Yesterday morning from the minute Munch go up he was in a hyper mood going at a 100 miles an hour. He was not to bad just doing everything really quickly.

Later we all got ready and went to the local shopping centre, we went for something to eat, all the time we were out Munch was pushing at the boundaries several times he was asked to do things or not to do things and it would take several times before he would listen. We were going to a shop to get things for Halloween today and a few times I said that if he continued we would not go, on the way to the shop, he kept repeating over and over, please can we go to the —–, I asked him to stop, he carried on, I said that if he carried on we would not go, he carried on whilst laughing, so I said  he had to many chances and that was it we were going home, Munch did not like it at all and at this point I could see we were in for one of his meltdowns, he cried and growled on the way back to the car, he got in and we started off home. When he is in this zone we know that there is no reasoning with him as this just fuels it and we just we have to do to keep him and ourselves safe. Granny though decided that she was to start telling him how if he had listened to mummy and not kept pushing it, Munch by this stage just could not cope with that and hit granny round the head, I had to pull over into a petrol station and get him out of the car, by now he was in his really scary zone where he just cannot control it, I could not let go of him as it was to dangerous, but just holding him by the hand, he was able to hit out, kick, bite, spit so I literally had to get behind him and restrain him. The lady came out from he garage and knocked on the car window to ask if she could do anything. LIKE WHAT!!!!! He eventually seemed to calm so I got him back in the car, only for him to lash out again, so back out of the car we got, I said that we would have to walk home, he was completely out of it, I had to sit at a bus stop and restrain him, it must have taken 1/2 hour to get him to  a calm enough state to get back into the car. He was told that when we got home he was going to his bedroom for a cool down period, if he hit or did anything that he should not the time in the bedroom would be extended, we managed to get home without any incident, and Munch went straight up to his bedroom.

Once up there though he started again, I ended up upstairs with him for a good hour sitting in the door of the bedroom, he threw things at me launch himself at me with his fists and feet on more than one occasion I had to put my hands up to defend myself which sent him reeling back onto he floor, all of which I then got blame for being told that I had done it on perpose!! Eventually I could see that he was trying to regulate himself, so I got him to get his drinks bottle to suck as sucking is very calming. Munch sucked his bottle and then came and sat on my knee and snuggled in whilst sucking on his bottle. Eventually cam was restored 2 hours after meltdown had started.

The rest of the day past without incident, me and daddy made the most of granny being here and had a night out.

Quiet Day

Today the plan was to go to Legoland for the fireworks, but after such busy day’s for the past few day’s I decided that a quiet day was in order. I did not mention it to Munch, nor he to me so it was left at that. I was very glad that we did not go as later on we received a phone call from a fellow adopter friend who was there with her daughter to say that there was a power cut and the park was closing as the power was going to be out for at least 3 hours, so lucky escape is what I say!!!

Munch played on the computer for a lot of the day today, I know bad mummy letting him. We went to Tesco’s to do shopping, whilst there they had a special offer for an Alien’s vs. Monster’s Halloween Special DVD, so I bought it for Munch as he does like to sit and watch a film. What a rip off, it was a whole 20 minutes long!!!! Note to self, remember to check running time when buying DVDs in future. He enjoyed it though which is the main thing.

We spent an hour in the afternoon doing some Halloween picture’s, then back on the computer he went. Munch asked me to do something with him on Club Penguin, he had got up a video on YouTube showing him a mission. When I looked I asked to sit down to look as a though that I was an old video and wanted to check the date, Munch stood up and as I went to sit down got very angry and knocked the coffee I was holding all over the floor. I got a cloth and cleaned it up and was telling him how dangerous it was and trying to explain that I thought the video was out of date when he lashed out, hitting is straight to a 3, so on the step he went, he was very angry about this and as I went passed him kicked, so even though told by our play therapist that once the 7 minutes starts that what ever happen’s it is just that 7 minutes I just thought I am not tolerating this, so told him that his 7 minutes was starting again, to this he howled and called me a f*****g idiot, so I started it a, so I started it again, he lashed out at the dog, so I started it again, he did then calm down, did his time and went to play on the computer again, he looked very tired when I looked at him so I think that the late nights are catching up on him.

Whilst I was preparing dinner Munch played with his ClubIce Hockey game with granny, ate dinner well, played ice hockey again with granny whilst I got his bath ready. Bathed whilst playing with granny, TV, supper, he lost his story for teasing the dog and normal bed time routine. An hour after bed he was calling down for cream, once applied not a peep was heard again.

Granny Comes Visiting

Yesterday again we had a good day. Munch and I went shopping for a Halloween outfit and a bit of food. We then went home and got ready for the Ugly Bug Ball we were attending in the afternoon at our local Children’s Centre.

We went Munch was well-behaved but as usual in these situations his emotional age is a few years younger and he just ran round and round, joining in the dancing once or twice. Our friends daughter was there with her child minder and for a lot of the time he just wanted to be with her. Towards the end daddy and granny came, Munch was pleased to see granny but was very caught up in what was happening in the centre.

Munch was very good at home in the evening and on very good form with granny even sitting on her knee. He played hide and seek and on the computer before bed.

Today has been a day of 2 halfs, this morning Munch got up and went to granny but did go back to bed when asked to. We were going to Chessington today and Munch had been looking forward to it.

After breakfast and getting dressed i was like Munch had his finger on the self distruct button, he was uncooperative, was in one of his blaming and twisting moods, he ended up having time out, he was very angry and kicking out and swearing. He calmed down before the end of the 7 minutes, and we eventually go off.

Once at Chessington, he was moody waned to go on rides then did not want to, he had a rotten attitude and was constantly being rude, in the end I read him the riot act and told him that I was fed up of it, we were not just going to wonder around aimlessly all day, that he could loss his attitude and that this was it no more warning’s. The next time we would just go home. He was a bit sullen afterwards, be picked up and we had a lovely rest of the day.

Coming home in the car I was beginning to think we had picked up he wrong child, he was very polite and kind, he was very pleasant. We came home, he had supper and off he went to bed.

Good day but!!!!

This morning Munch knocked a couple of times on the bedroom door and had to be sent back to bed. Once we got up we had a good morning routine, right up till getting dressed then right out of the blue he kicked me, as per norm it was straight to a 3 and time out. He protested that it had been an accident, I just said that it had not been and kicking was unacceptable, so go and do your 7 minutes, which he did.

After school we went to his club, he was well-behaved today so earned a star. At home he was good, apart from when I was helping him on the computer, he was leaning on me and a kisses him on his head, so he spat in my face, again straight to 3 and time out, and told tha spitting again was unacceptable behaviour and he could have just told me not to kiss him. After this the rest of the evening went without incident and was very pleasant!

2 stars earnt today, bringing total to 39. 1 for good behaviour at club – 1 for no calling out once in bed.