Lovely day at Chessington.

Well yet another day off school today as Munch’s was being used as a polling station.

We were going to use our Merlin passes at Thorpe Park, but once we were in the car we decided on Chessington instead. On the way I said to Munch, at last his life was free of Social Works, his answer was ‘until a get a younger brother’. Which show’s that he has taken in all that we have told him about how he came to be our son enough to know that any new child coming would come in the same way.

We had a lovely day at Chessington, it was quiet and we were able to ride most of the rides a couple of times. Munch went on all the big rides that he can now and enjoyed them all. He was very nervous going on Dragon’s Fury but could not wait to get on again once we were off.

On the way home, we had an incident where Munch decided to wipe his shoes on me,I took it off him and put it on the back seat, he started screaming and kicking the dashboard of the car, he’d already had a couple of warnings in the car, I had to stop for milk, so told him to take his seat in the back and that he can spend the next week in he back.

At home Munch had watched TV until lights out.

Last night I had requested some suggestion’s of how to combat Munch’s constant calling out every night after lights out on the AUK forum, the were lots of answers, lot’s of which I had already tried, one which was a bit bazaar, and I few I will try.

Tonight I went with the suggestion of saying that he was allowed 2 call down’s then after that I would not answer, well what can I say 2 hours later and we have only had 2 call down’s!!!! Afer he 2nd I told him he’d had his 2 and he has not called down since. I shall continue with this whilst it lasts, and keep all the other suggestion’s in mind if this one does not work, so watch this space.

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It’s Been a While.

Well it’s been a while since I last posted so sign that everything is going well.

In that time we have had our last Play Therapy session, we had a visit from Munch’s SW without any major incident afterwards.

We have had day’s out at Chessington and Legoland all enjoyed a great deal, we have Merlin passes and we have been able to get an extra pass as we receive DLA now for Munch so that is good.

On Saturday Munch had his 1st Karate grading and gained his red belt with a 1s class pass and also won a trophy for best in the white-red belt category, he was so pleased with himself, before hand we had the usual with him not waning to go, to much of the unknown again.

We have had Grampy staying for a week as it was his 70th Birthday on Monday, on Saturday night we took Grampy to the dog racing, we had a house full staying all weekend as, my brother, SIL and niece also came to celebrate with us all, Munch did very well and won the most money of all of us, at time it was all a bit much for him and we had a few little incident where he needed reigning in but mostly he was very good.

Mother’s Day would have been perfect as Munch was very excited, he had made me a card at school and I have to share his fantastic poem that he wrote in it

Your hair is curly like a pig’s tail, your lips are like pink diamond.

What a way with words he has, I had chocolates and another card too. The sad thing was though that my MIL had passed away in the early hours of the morning, we did tell Munch, how much he understands though is another thing, he did ask who is going to live in Nanny’s house now.

We have a date for Munch’s SW’s final visit and our SW is going to come on the same day as well before Munch get’s home from school so we can make sure that everything is in place before we get our AO. We still have no date yet, we are hoping it will be soon though.

We have decided to stay put and not move, we weighed up the pro’s and con’s and what was most important to us, and we decided that we do want to start the process as soon as possible for no.2 after our AO has been granted, we are hoping for about June and have decided that although our SW (our old one who left) said we can start ASAP we have decided to have 6 month’s SW free and start again after next Christmas.

Finally today Munch got Star of the day at school so a nice thing to finish off on.

 

 

 

 

 

The High’s and Then Very Low Finish to the Weekend.

We had a lovely Saturday, we got up early and me and Munch had a lift off daddy up to Madame Tussaud’s, it was not somewhere I would have taken Munch but as we have Merlin Annual Passes had nothing to lose and he did enjoy it even though he didn’t know who the wax models were. He enjoyed the taxi ride and 4D film at the end. I always find rides are good for our attachment as well as Munch always wants you to hold him really tightly, I think this is because he has an valide reason for you to cuddle him.

Afterwards we went to the Science Museum and again he liked it here, we only saw a very small part of it as he was very interested in the Launch Pad area were it has lots of interactive things for children to do and also the area to do with Space, so I can see lots of visits to the Science Museum happening.

He was well-behaved all day and the few little bits of attitude we had were easily dealt with by saying that we would have to go home if they continued and he did not want to go home.

Sunday started off well, Munch used the computer for a short while, then watched a film, St Trinian’s of all film’s, but he was engrossed in it so I left him to it, then we went swimming.

His swimming is coming on a treat, he is very confident now and does not need his armbands at all, he is swimming a little on his own and I am sure with a few more visits before we go away he is going to just love the pool.

On the way home Munch’s attitude was that of a stroppy teenager again, so he was told that as soon as we got in he was to go on his step, he then though it was going to be a good idea and mimic me in a silly voice about the step, he didn’t think it was such a good idea when he was told that instead of 7 minutes on the step he had earned himself 30 minutes upstairs.

After his 30 minutes upstairs he watch Aliens vs. Monsters, we had dinner, then played Junior Monopoly, before his usual TV before bed. Daddy came home from work and Munch asked if rather than TV we could play a game of Monopoly again which we agreed to.

After supper was had and up to get ready for bed Munch went, all going very pleasantly. Munch went into he bathroom and hid behind the bathroom door, something he used to do all the time, but has not done for a long time. I went in put his toothpaste on his brush and called him, he came from behind the door and I was standing with my back to it and pushed me really hard making me stumble forward a little as I was not expecting it, now normally it would have been you cannot push people like that, it is not allowed – step, but as it was bedtime and I felt that he had been playing for time at supper, sending him to sit on the step would have been playing right into his hands, so I said that it was wrong and that tomorrow night he would come to bed at 7.30 instead of 8pm, He just flipped he started hitting and kicking and swearing, saying it had been an accident, I was in his way, I explained to him that all he had to do was say excuse me please and I would have moved, which made him rage more, I said that hitting and being aggressive was not allowed so knocked another 1/2 off his bedtime, he started hitting and saying unless I let him go to bed at 8.30pm he was no going to stop, by then I had got him in his bedroom, he was pulling my hair, hitting and kicking, kept repeating that if I didn’t let him stay up until 8.30 he was going to carry on, every time I tried to leave the room he had hold of my clothing or my hair and was screaming for me not to go, then he was biting. I just kept saying no he was going to bed at 7pm tomorrow as he could no expect go behave like this and stay up late, he had to take the consequences of his action’s. I picked him up and put him into his bed as he was refusing to get in, he had hold of my hair in both hands pulling so hard, where do they get teir strenght from when they are having these meltdowns!!!! Now this where I am not very proud of myself, but he was pulling so hard and I could not get him to let go, that I pulled his hair back, and the shock of it made him let go immediately, he said you are not allowed to hurt me, I just said but you were really hurting me and now you know what it feels like, I just said our usual goodnight blardy blar, and left the room, feeling horrible with what I had done.

I left it for 15 minutes and went upstairs on the pretence of going to the loo as Munch had been very quiet, and that has not been him just lately when in bed. As I was going upstairs, he asked is that you mummy in the sweetessed of voices as if nothing had happened, I went in he was playing his DS in bed, I apologies for pulling his hair, he asked if he could stay up till his normal time tomorrow, I stuck to my gun’s and said no, told him that he should not be playing his DS in bed and he was to finnish what he was doing and put it down, there was no calling out or anything afterwards, he jus finished and went off to sleep.

I hold my hands up and say I was completely at a loss as how to handle the situation, thank goodness for our Play Therapist, it shall be top of my agenda on Tuesday to get some help and guidance on how to deal with things when step is playing right into his hands.

So the weekend started on a high and ended up on a an extreme low 😦