18/12 – Snow, Snow and Snow!!

Munch had a good sleep and we didn’t get up till 9.20 this morning, bliss. The was still a little bit of snow on the ground from the day before, not long after we got up it started to snow again and it gradually got worse and worse until I was like a blizzard, Munch stayed in the living room oblivious to all this, alternating between the computer and TV.

When daddy got up daddy gave him his Christmas card from Nanny, Much was extremely happy when £40 fell out, we still owed him last weeks pocket-money and we said that because it will be Christmas Day next Saturday that he could have this weeks and next weeks as well and that we would put an extra pond to it to make £10, so £10 given Munch was very excited when he added his 2 £20 notes and his £10 note that altogether he had £50.

We were going to go to Kid’s Space later and said that we would call into the Entertainer whilst there, but the snow kept coming, so in the end we decided not to chance it and we stayed in all day.

The rest of the day went in a blur of TV and computer, Munch was getting a bit stir crazy and was getting to be a bit hyper, and had to be asked several times to calm down, he was sent to play upstairs in his room for a while, after 1/2 hour he called us up to his shop, he had put post it notes all over his bedroom selling things, they were on everything, we could even buy his whole bedroom for £18!! I settled on a photo and a tube of Sudocrem at 10p each.

We all watched the 1st part of Strictly Come Dancing and then Casualty, then it was bedtime for Munch.

Something I forgot to put in the previous entry was that in the afternoon I received a phone call from the school saying that Munch had been in the office for about 15 minutes with a stomach ache, he was ok in himself, didn’t want to go to the toilet and had no temperature. I told the lady I was talking to that we had been having a lot of him saying he had tummy aches and headaches over the last few weeks and not wanting to got to school, once he gets there though he is fine. Me and hubby discussed this later and what we have realised is its been since the Christmas Decoration’s went up, this time last year they were doing lots of work with him about him coming to live with us, so we think that subconsciously he is worried that it is going to happen again, he has been unwilling to stay on his own in a room, constantly following us around of late so it’s like if he keeps us in his sight we wont go away,what our poor children have to endure.

20/11-Becoming Clingy

Munch woke up very early calling out to me so I went into him, he said that he was scared, I just soothed him and said that he was ok and he went back of to sleep, at 8.15 he came into our room saying that it was 9 o’clock. I got up been as I was awake, and had strong words with him about coming in before he is supposed to, and about not telling the truth about the time.

We had breakfast and then went to get dressed, whilst on the stairs Munch pushed me, something he does often, so was usual body language all wrong, not allowed, step. Afterwards I went to get ready with Munch 2 steps behind, I realised then how Munch is following me everywhere, and has been doing it for a while now, I cannot even go to the loo these day’s without a shadow.

We went and did a bit of shopping and Munch was well-behaved through out, he bought some sweets with his pocket-money and was very pleased that he had £2.11 left to add to next weeks pocket-money.

When we got home I got on with hing’s in the kitchen and Munch went into the living room with daddy, I was listening to him talking to daddy, he was telling daddy that mummy was weird, one of his favorite words at the moment, and he then said “you’re a jealous daddy”, so daddy said “am I, what am I jealous of”, “me” said Munch, “oh I am, am I” said daddy “yes, you want to be me” said Munch, that made me giggle, so funny what goes through their little minds.

Daddy and Munch then played at being spy’s for a while, Munch was playing really nicely, he had a little book he was writing his spy rules in and was in great spirits, then whilst playing he deliberately hit daddy across his face right on his glasses, usual speech, step. Once time was over he just went and lay on the sofa with his head on daddies lap.

After dinner Munch went on he computer, but again since daddy had gone to work, wherever I went, so did Munch. We then sat down and watched Polar Express, such a lovely film, and for the 1st time since our Intro’s Munch snuggled right up to me and we had a lovely couple of hours doing one of the things I had dreamed about doing whilst going through the adoption process, for me a priceless moment.

Afterwards, he went back on the computer for a short time, but the computer was playing up so he was making funny noises and creating. Then he wanted the toilet and would not go on his own he was crying and saying he was scared to go on his own, no tears I might add, I did not want him to think that if he made a fuss he got his own way so I refused to go with him, so he did eventually go on his own.

I was time for Merlin, he watch’s this every Saturday, he did at 1st lay on the sofa as usual, then came and sat on the arm of the chair I was sitting in, saying he was scared on his own!!

Bedtime routine was as usual, story, snuggle time and cream, followed by lights out.

2 Very Different Days

Yesterday morning for some reason Munch came and woke me up at 6.40am, I told him to go back to bed which he did and put his TV on, he must have come in another 4 times and in the end we got up earlier than planned. Munch is normally good at staying in his room until 9am on a weekend so I am not sure what was a matter this morning.

Munch was 1 of the 4 Beaver’s representing his group in a Connect 4 competition in the morning so we got ready for that, he was his usual apprehensive self when going somewhere new, saying that he did not want to go. I knew that he would be fine once he got there so gave him lots of encouragement, and he was ok and off with the other Beaver’s from his group as soon as we arrived.

I was back a couple of hour’s later to pick him up and watch the presentation of certificates, Munch go a taking part certificate of which he was really pleased with.

After we went straight to our local shopping centre because Munch has completely out grown his old winter coat and he needed one. Munch was in a very funny mood by the time we got there he was cranky, very un-cooperative, he had pocket-money he wanted to spend, he had his Kevin and Perry head on, so he was full of attitude and generally not listening and thinking he was being very clever, he had several warnings. We went o the toilet and he insisted on coming in with me and did not want o leave and stand on his own, I told him that the mood he was in I did not trust him not to open the door, he promised that he would not, and then did. I told him that he had enough warning’s and that we were going home. He did his usual and said that he had forgotten not to open the door it was an accident, which it was not. I just took hold of his hand and walked through the shopping centre with him protesting until we got to the car park. I was really aware of the fact that I desperately needed to get him a coat, so I took him aside when we got to the car park and talked to him and said that we would go back, but here would be no more warnings, if he stepped out of line just once, we would go home, coat or no coat, and if he had no coat we could not go to the Fireworks display  we were going to tha evening.

The rest of the shopping trip passed very sullenly, we got a coat, as he behaved we went to Disney and he spent his pocket-money on Club Penguin books and we made it home in one piece.

Munch’s attitude carried on at home, he clearly was not having a good day and was struggling. We had tea and got ready for the Fireworks Display, we were meeting friends. Whilst there Munch was trying to be very controlling of everything, nothing was right, he was very heavy-handed with our friends daughter. He moaned and groaned although the fireworks, the later night and very early morning was obviously kicking in, walking out he was deliberately bumping into people as it was very crowded, we walked a little way to get a bus, all the bus’ passing were full, we managed to get a taxi in the end, this cheered him up and we had a much better mood.

When we got in daddy had to go to nanny’s, we had a very nice supper time then off to bed. Munch walked out of the kitchen then just walked back in and punched me out of the blue, and started shouting that I had left his new coat on the back of the chair. Now I am not proud of the fact, but at this point I have to say I completely lost the plot, I was so angry, I shouted and shouted, I told him I was sick and tired of his attitude, tha I was not going to be hit and kicked by him anymore, that was not what son’s did to their mummy’s and if he carried on that from now on he could stay upstairs in his bedroom where I did not have to see him, me shouting like a fish wife gave him even more ammunition to shout back and swear at me like a trooper. I was just so angry that I yelled and yelled about what I don’t know.

I came downstairs and sat down and could not believe how I had acted, so after a few minutes, I went back up and apologised to him, it is the first time in the 10 months that he has been our son I have ever seen his face wet with tears, I said I was very sorry that I shouted at him, we had a hug and a kiss and off to sleep he went.

On reflection we should not really have taken Munch to he display, what we have said is that in future if we are planning on doing something like that we will leave it until the last-minute to tell him the we can judge before we go if we feel that he will be able to cope with it.

Today has been totally different, he got up in a much better frame of mind. After breakfast I decided to take Munch to the local Sunday market, we spent a couple of hours there. Munch bought a little yappy dog. We called in the supermarket on he way home, had an hour indoor’s then went and met one of my friend’s and her dog with our dog. Munch had a good couple of hours walking and running with the two dog’s.

Back at home he watched TV before bath his evening TV and yet more fireworks, supper, bed story. Tonight he wanted to do his bottle again sitting on my knee. In all the a very good day.

A lovely Saturday

Well what another great day yesterday, Munch was in a good mood, we just did normal family things like watching Saturday morning TV, although I have to say it’s changed a bit over the years. Daddy got up and made all the appropriate ooohhhhs and aahhhs over last nights experiments.

Me and Munch then went to our local shopping centre, Munch had his £3 pocket money which was burning a hole in his ‘purse’. So money spent, we went for lunch, then to have a look at some cloths as he is very particular with what he likes to wear and he has shot up so much in the 9 months he has been with us that he will need a whole new winter wardrobe.

Our only wobbly moment was when we went into the Disney shop and he saw Phineas and Ferb bits, he wanted to take back what he had already bought so that he could have his money back and buy that instead, and no amount of explaining was going to convince him that he would not have enough to buy anything here!!! In the end he was given a warning and when he repeated we left the shop.

All home for a very pleasant evening, I even got to what Strictly Come Dancing. We had tea in the living room for a treat, Munch told me that I had made a very good choice for tea. Merlin was watched and then off to bed for story and light out.