2 Very Different Days

Yesterday morning for some reason Munch came and woke me up at 6.40am, I told him to go back to bed which he did and put his TV on, he must have come in another 4 times and in the end we got up earlier than planned. Munch is normally good at staying in his room until 9am on a weekend so I am not sure what was a matter this morning.

Munch was 1 of the 4 Beaver’s representing his group in a Connect 4 competition in the morning so we got ready for that, he was his usual apprehensive self when going somewhere new, saying that he did not want to go. I knew that he would be fine once he got there so gave him lots of encouragement, and he was ok and off with the other Beaver’s from his group as soon as we arrived.

I was back a couple of hour’s later to pick him up and watch the presentation of certificates, Munch go a taking part certificate of which he was really pleased with.

After we went straight to our local shopping centre because Munch has completely out grown his old winter coat and he needed one. Munch was in a very funny mood by the time we got there he was cranky, very un-cooperative, he had pocket-money he wanted to spend, he had his Kevin and Perry head on, so he was full of attitude and generally not listening and thinking he was being very clever, he had several warnings. We went o the toilet and he insisted on coming in with me and did not want o leave and stand on his own, I told him that the mood he was in I did not trust him not to open the door, he promised that he would not, and then did. I told him that he had enough warning’s and that we were going home. He did his usual and said that he had forgotten not to open the door it was an accident, which it was not. I just took hold of his hand and walked through the shopping centre with him protesting until we got to the car park. I was really aware of the fact that I desperately needed to get him a coat, so I took him aside when we got to the car park and talked to him and said that we would go back, but here would be no more warnings, if he stepped out of line just once, we would go home, coat or no coat, and if he had no coat we could not go to the Fireworks display  we were going to tha evening.

The rest of the shopping trip passed very sullenly, we got a coat, as he behaved we went to Disney and he spent his pocket-money on Club Penguin books and we made it home in one piece.

Munch’s attitude carried on at home, he clearly was not having a good day and was struggling. We had tea and got ready for the Fireworks Display, we were meeting friends. Whilst there Munch was trying to be very controlling of everything, nothing was right, he was very heavy-handed with our friends daughter. He moaned and groaned although the fireworks, the later night and very early morning was obviously kicking in, walking out he was deliberately bumping into people as it was very crowded, we walked a little way to get a bus, all the bus’ passing were full, we managed to get a taxi in the end, this cheered him up and we had a much better mood.

When we got in daddy had to go to nanny’s, we had a very nice supper time then off to bed. Munch walked out of the kitchen then just walked back in and punched me out of the blue, and started shouting that I had left his new coat on the back of the chair. Now I am not proud of the fact, but at this point I have to say I completely lost the plot, I was so angry, I shouted and shouted, I told him I was sick and tired of his attitude, tha I was not going to be hit and kicked by him anymore, that was not what son’s did to their mummy’s and if he carried on that from now on he could stay upstairs in his bedroom where I did not have to see him, me shouting like a fish wife gave him even more ammunition to shout back and swear at me like a trooper. I was just so angry that I yelled and yelled about what I don’t know.

I came downstairs and sat down and could not believe how I had acted, so after a few minutes, I went back up and apologised to him, it is the first time in the 10 months that he has been our son I have ever seen his face wet with tears, I said I was very sorry that I shouted at him, we had a hug and a kiss and off to sleep he went.

On reflection we should not really have taken Munch to he display, what we have said is that in future if we are planning on doing something like that we will leave it until the last-minute to tell him the we can judge before we go if we feel that he will be able to cope with it.

Today has been totally different, he got up in a much better frame of mind. After breakfast I decided to take Munch to the local Sunday market, we spent a couple of hours there. Munch bought a little yappy dog. We called in the supermarket on he way home, had an hour indoor’s then went and met one of my friend’s and her dog with our dog. Munch had a good couple of hours walking and running with the two dog’s.

Back at home he watched TV before bath his evening TV and yet more fireworks, supper, bed story. Tonight he wanted to do his bottle again sitting on my knee. In all the a very good day.

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Halloween

Today was our 1st Halloween together, after getting this morning ran very smoothly, and as Munch was on his best behaviour off we went to buy some things for Halloween that we had not been able to get yesterday. It was a good day to buy as everything was half price. We picked up a few bits then went off to the supermarket to get lunch.

When in there they were doing face painting for Halloween so Munch had his face painted as a Devil, shopping got and off we went home, no incidents today thank goodness. In the car granny asked Munch what he was going to say at people’s door’s and he said ‘Merry Christmas’ which made as all laugh.

At home we set about carving our pumpkin, then decorated for Halloween, Munch was very excited and could not wait for it to get dark so that he could go Trick or Treating.

I was getting the dinner ready in the kitchen and gave Munch a bag of prawn cracker’s that had come with the Chinese that the adults had for tea, Munch finds it really hard to share anything, not just because he is very emotionally immature in some area’s but also because of some of the things that happened to him in his early years and we have worked hard and patiently to help him in this area, but we are fighting an up hill battle and we are taking it slowly and gradually he is improving. Whilst I was doing the dinner I could hear granny asking Munch to give her one to which Munch would not, she kept on and Munch kept saying no, before I could intervene, I think that granny took the crackers of Munch, as all I heard was a lot of screaming and granny saying ‘hear take them I don’t want one know, your spiteful and nasty’ or words to that effect anyway, when I came in the living room Munch’s nose was bleeding, granny said that she had put her hands up to defend herself, which I have no doubt that she had to, but I was so angry and said we have worked hard, and do no want the little progress we have made undone!!!

Munch watched TV quietly until it was time o go Trick or Treating, we were out for 1 1/2 hours and he did very well and had a very full pumpkin bucket. Back home we had dinner really late, I had just told Munch he had 10 minutes until bed when daddy phoned and said that he was on his way home so Munch was allowed to stay up and have 10 minutes with daddy then it was off to bed. I was called to put cream on to Munch and not heard a peep since.

Oh Dear!

Yesterday morning from the minute Munch go up he was in a hyper mood going at a 100 miles an hour. He was not to bad just doing everything really quickly.

Later we all got ready and went to the local shopping centre, we went for something to eat, all the time we were out Munch was pushing at the boundaries several times he was asked to do things or not to do things and it would take several times before he would listen. We were going to a shop to get things for Halloween today and a few times I said that if he continued we would not go, on the way to the shop, he kept repeating over and over, please can we go to the —–, I asked him to stop, he carried on, I said that if he carried on we would not go, he carried on whilst laughing, so I said  he had to many chances and that was it we were going home, Munch did not like it at all and at this point I could see we were in for one of his meltdowns, he cried and growled on the way back to the car, he got in and we started off home. When he is in this zone we know that there is no reasoning with him as this just fuels it and we just we have to do to keep him and ourselves safe. Granny though decided that she was to start telling him how if he had listened to mummy and not kept pushing it, Munch by this stage just could not cope with that and hit granny round the head, I had to pull over into a petrol station and get him out of the car, by now he was in his really scary zone where he just cannot control it, I could not let go of him as it was to dangerous, but just holding him by the hand, he was able to hit out, kick, bite, spit so I literally had to get behind him and restrain him. The lady came out from he garage and knocked on the car window to ask if she could do anything. LIKE WHAT!!!!! He eventually seemed to calm so I got him back in the car, only for him to lash out again, so back out of the car we got, I said that we would have to walk home, he was completely out of it, I had to sit at a bus stop and restrain him, it must have taken 1/2 hour to get him to  a calm enough state to get back into the car. He was told that when we got home he was going to his bedroom for a cool down period, if he hit or did anything that he should not the time in the bedroom would be extended, we managed to get home without any incident, and Munch went straight up to his bedroom.

Once up there though he started again, I ended up upstairs with him for a good hour sitting in the door of the bedroom, he threw things at me launch himself at me with his fists and feet on more than one occasion I had to put my hands up to defend myself which sent him reeling back onto he floor, all of which I then got blame for being told that I had done it on perpose!! Eventually I could see that he was trying to regulate himself, so I got him to get his drinks bottle to suck as sucking is very calming. Munch sucked his bottle and then came and sat on my knee and snuggled in whilst sucking on his bottle. Eventually cam was restored 2 hours after meltdown had started.

The rest of the day past without incident, me and daddy made the most of granny being here and had a night out.

Big Cousin

Well Munch had been looking forward to this day for a while, his big cousin and Aunty were visiting for the day, he spent all morning asking ‘how many minutes till they get here’. They arrived at 1.30pm after a terrible journey, Munch immediately collared big cousin to go on the computer and play club penguin.

After an hour, Munch, big cousin and daddy all went off to the local children’s Kids Space whilst mummy, Aunty and Granny all got to go shopping and have a nice meal at a very nice shopping mall.

Daddy said afterwards that on the whole Munch had been well-behaved, he had to be spoken to about calming down and not getting over excited and hitting people. It was the first time that he had been tall enough to go on the over head walking challenge and the 1st time he bottled out part way round, but Munch being Munch went back again and conquered it, and went on another 2 times after that and went round very confidently. They then went to Macdonald’s for tea.

Back at home more computer, then Munch and big cousin played with his club penguin ice hockey game for a good 1 1/2 hours, with no tantrums when big cousin won points, a big break through. They played in his bedroom for a while until it was time for big cousin to go home.

Another late night, but a good day.

A lovely Saturday

Well what another great day yesterday, Munch was in a good mood, we just did normal family things like watching Saturday morning TV, although I have to say it’s changed a bit over the years. Daddy got up and made all the appropriate ooohhhhs and aahhhs over last nights experiments.

Me and Munch then went to our local shopping centre, Munch had his £3 pocket money which was burning a hole in his ‘purse’. So money spent, we went for lunch, then to have a look at some cloths as he is very particular with what he likes to wear and he has shot up so much in the 9 months he has been with us that he will need a whole new winter wardrobe.

Our only wobbly moment was when we went into the Disney shop and he saw Phineas and Ferb bits, he wanted to take back what he had already bought so that he could have his money back and buy that instead, and no amount of explaining was going to convince him that he would not have enough to buy anything here!!! In the end he was given a warning and when he repeated we left the shop.

All home for a very pleasant evening, I even got to what Strictly Come Dancing. We had tea in the living room for a treat, Munch told me that I had made a very good choice for tea. Merlin was watched and then off to bed for story and light out.