Day 2 of Mummy Gets Tough

The morning started well, we got up a bit later than normal as because of consequence which were put in place because of Munch’s behaviour the morning before. I will point out that these were before the play therapist had been and I started our almost supper-nanny like regime, I had said that is what was going to happen and as Munch remembers everything I needed to follow them through. So breakfast at the table no TV, that had been for jumping on daddy the previous morning, dressed over shop to buy crisps for film club this evening, car, school, easy.

As Munch had film club I did not have to pick him up until 4.45pm, bliss. Once in the car Munch said about making a lead for his little dog which we said that we would do together, I had not been able to get out to get the ribbon to make it and said so and that if I went out the next day I would see if I could get it, que Munch shouting at me aggressively and saying tha I had lied, I did the that is a very rude voice, that is not allowed, firmly and he was told to hang up his coat hen step as soon as he got in.

Once we got in that’s what he did, once finished he practiced his reading for assemble the following day and did his homework which I am pleased to say he is now putting a bit of effort into as before he never wanted to do it and it would be very rushed. Munch’s writing is very untidy, and his spelling is terrible, so I am thinking of doing some work on that myself at home with him once or twice a week. I shall keep up our regime and once he is getting into a better state of mind around his control issues I will start.

As he did not have long until  bath time Munch was allowed to use the computer until his dinner was ready, he had one more episode of rude talking and time out, then dinner, bath, straight to supper with no TV tonight, another of his consequences from the previous morning. Munch has got into a very bad habit of not brushing his teeth properly, so I am trying to encourage him, tonight he was repeatedly asked to brush them properly, and continued not to, so he lost the next mornings TV again.

We ead a story that the PT had lent us about a cross crocodile who was in pain and how a little mouse came and took away his pain and held it for him then buried it, I altered the wording a little to reflect the pain that Munch carries around with him and how we help to take it away, but using the character’s in the story, Munch really cuddled up to me whilst I was reading it which he still finds very hard to do so is lovely for me when he does, and he wanted me to sit back on his bed so that he could sit on me and have a cuddle afterwards, which is another rare but good when it happens occurence. We did cream water and cuddle, did not quiet manage the kisses tonight, but there’s always tomorrow. Munch called down a few times afterwards, then eventually sleep.

In addition to above, I spoke to both our SW and Munch’s SW today, we are worried about the fact that we only have 3 more sessions with the play therapist and we feel that we need more, if only for support for us. Munch’s SW has said tha he will try to speak to he PT so that he is able to go back to their funding panel for more funding, so fingers crossed.

All Boy’s Together

Yesterday mummy and granny had a day out in London and left daddy in charge of Munch. Before we went though Munch had an appointment with the nurse at the doctor’s surgery for his Hep B booster, he was really looking forward to this!!! When we got there though the nurse was not sure why he was having it, I asked her to get his note’s, but there was a great big pile of them so she asked us if we would mind coming back so that she could look at the notes and she would ring me later. When she did ring me later I was annoyed as I was questioned as to my relationship, and when I had taken him before was I his Foster Carer!!!! No we are his parents, we just have not had our day in court yet, I then had to explain that we have joint parental responsibility with his LA. We have a letter saying that we are able to do all things like doctor’s appointments, dentist’s, vaccinations etc, we gave the doctor’s a copy when we first registered Munch, but they want me to take it again aaarrggghhh!!!!!

After that we got ready for our day in London, daddy and Munch run us to the local station, all the way Munch cuddled up to me and when asked fo a cuddle I had a beautiful cuddle before going, and we had a laugh a the little hand waving out of the back wind of daddy’s cab.

We had a fab day doing a bit of shopping in Hamley’s and Harrod’s, in between the two shop’s we had Dorchester, then in the evening we went to see Dirty Dancing, what a fab day.

Munch and daddy had a great day too, they had gone to the Pitch and Putt, but it was closed so they went to Kids Kingdom. After they came home and played some games, they fetched take away for tea. Daddy did Munch’s bath, TV, supper then bed. Munch asked for Sqirrel Nutmeg story, which is about a squirrel who has to be adopted. Daddy really enjoyed his day with Munch so a good time had by all.

And Another Good One!!

We had a visit during the night as Munch had a nose bleed. I moped him up and took  him back to his bed with a toilet roll and we did not hear another peep until he knocked on the door and came into our bedroom armed with his clock to show us that it was 9am.

Munch and daddy got up and left me in bed for a nice lay in. I could hear them laughing and playing downstairs. Munch came up every now and again to tell me what was happening. A little later they got themselves ready and off they went swimming whilst i had a nice couple of hours peace and quiet.

When they got back Munch came in and gave me the biggest hug, that was such a big break through for our little man and even know a good few hours later I find myself grinning about it. We all watched a bit of TV, Munch used the computer, then it was time for dinner.

After that normal evening routine, bath, TV, supper, teeth, bed, we had a little incident whilst getting into bed where he pushed me. This has happened several times lately, so I had words with him. This started him shouting at me, I put down his book and told him that I  was fed up with being shouted at and if that was how he was going to speak to me, I was not going to stay and left the room. Munch called down that he was sorry and please could he have his story, so I went back up and said on this occasion I would read to him. He listened well and again I had a lovely goodnight hug and lovely kisses.

One glowing mummy signing off…….