After almost 7 Years, Munch’s Life is Free of Social Worker’s.

Well another milestone met today, Munch’s SW came for the very last time.

I had told Munch last night that his SW was visiting today, we had the usual calling but no aches or pains overnight like we used to get.

We had a very good morning routine apart from Munch manage to drop his breakfast on the floor 3 times!!!!

Our SW also came today so that she could make sure all the loose ends were tied up, she arrived before Munch’s SW and whilst hubby was picking him up from the station, she phoned the court to see where they are at with our application, the judge has read all the paper work and had told them to go ahead and arrange a date. Because of all the holiday’s of late there have been no court managers working and apparently it is them who have to make the dates, so hopefully as they will be back next week we should have a date by the end of next week.

Hubby arrived with Munch’s SW, there is not much to sort our really, he is waiting for a date to go to the finance panel for our extra therapy sessions, he is going to make a start on Munch’s later life letter, and has asked us to chase him if we have not got it in a couple of months time. The good news he had was that Munch’s birth mum had requested legal aide to contest the Aoption Order but was refused it on the grounds as she does not have a case.

We drank tea and coffee and munched on lovely cookie until it was time for hubby to go and fetch Munch from school. Hubby said Munch was very quiet on the way home, when he got in he went into talking in a very babyish way, he went up to his room and was fake crying and making very load noises, he behaved in a way he had never behaved before when his SW has been here, he did eventually calm a little and came down and played with his football in the garden, he flatly refused to engage with his SW, and would not say good-bye when the time came.

We did get him to come in and we gave his SW a couple of bottles of wine and a thank-you card, we thanked him for allowing us to be the parents to as far as we are concerned the best little boy in the world, he also said, that he feels that this placement was one of the best decision’s that he has made. He said good bye to Munch and for him to have a very good life and off he went with hubby, Munch did say good-bye as they left.

Me and Munch went up to his bedroom and had a little sing and ance around his bedroom, and I saw one of the biggest grins I have ever seen on his face, finally after almost 7 years of his little life, he is SW free!!!!

The rest of the evening went by nicely, we had tea went to Karate where Munch really concentrated well, home and TV before bed. (Lots of calling down as usual)

2nd Week of Easter Holiday’s and Easter Weekend

The Easter Holiday’s seem to have gone by in a blur, during the 2nd week Munch was bouncing a little and we did have to keep thing’s in check a bit he was very hyper and we had a few nose bleeds which are alway’s a sign that he is out of his comfort zone.

Thing’s were still very much all over the place in the aftermath of nanny passing away, routines where still out of the window, so considering all that we did get away lightly really compared to other time’s and hopefully now we are back at school thing’s will get back onto an even keel. We do have a couple of odd week’s coming up though with Royal Wedding’s, bank holiday’s and the school being closed for election day!!!

We had a lovely if not busy Easter Weekend, on Friday we visited Kids Space, it was good as it was fairly quiet as people were enjoying the sun. On the Saturday we took a picnic to Coram Field’s in London which is a lovely area, people can only go in if they have children with them, no adults only, they have a paddling pool, animal’s, play area’s, sand pit’s, we set up camp, and Munch was able to go off and play, they have someone on the entrance so children cannot go out. We only saw Munch every now and again when he came by for food or just to say hello.

On Easter Sunday we went to visit relative’s down on the South Coast, Munch loved having the day with his big cousin and as soon as we got there reverted to talking with a babyish voice, we had a great BBQ, then we all went to an adventure play ground, Munch tried to be very controlling when there, and sulked a fair bit when not getting his own way, he was being very contrary, saying he wanted to do something and then not wanting to when someone went to help him, then when they went off to do something else wanting to do it again, but nobody was giving into him so he had to give up in the end. From there we went to the beach, Munch and his cousin were so brave and went in the sea!!!! He was very put out because the beach was pebbles and he wanted to know where the sand was.

We went back to their house and before we knew it was 9pm, se we left as we had a 2 hour drive home, Munch actually slept in the car on the way home.

On Easter Monday when  Munch came into us he said that he had been sick during the night, when I went into his room his bed was covered in vomit, I asked him why he had not called for us and he said he knew he was being sick but he was sleeping!! Poor child had slept in a bed covered in vomit. He did not want any breakfast which is very unusual for him, he went off to Smyths to spend his Easter Money with daddy. When they came back we had arranged to meet the Ozzy relatives for the afternoon so that they could see Munch again before they go home later on this week, we picked them up and went to a local bar and Restaurant that has a play area and bouncy castle for kids, we ordered lunch and Munch had his usual, Spag Bol, he only ate the bolognaise sauce, and when we got home he just lay on the sofa until bed time and even asked to got to bed!!!

Yesterday was 1st day back at school after the Easter Holiday’s, Munch got up only ate half his breakfast and was sick again, so I phoned school to say he wouldn’t be in, he spent most of the morning in bed, he ate a little at lunch time, but again just lay on the sofa, about tea time he suddenly got up went to the fridge and got him self a bit of Easter Egg, and from there on in he was back to his normal self.

So in all besides our very sad news about MIL passing away, Easter although hectic has been good, we could have had much worse and are very proud of how our little boy has handled thing’s, me and hubby often look back to how thing’s were this time last year and cannot believe the progress that Munch has made, we in ourselves have chilled and have learnt so much over the last 15 months.

The one thing we are very sure about is that we love our little Munch with all our hearts and cannot imagine life with out him, and cannot wait to get our court dates.

Ticking Over.

Well since I last posted a few day’s ago thing’s have not been too bad.  After talking to the Play Therapist about starting the whole process again, I have posted on a AUK asking for people to share their experiences of adopting a second child when they have a very high needs 1st child and several people were kind enough to share their experiences, and the one thing that came across from most was that whilst it was extremely hard work, they were glad they had done it, so we definitely have not shelved the idea, and as we have not yet officially adopted no. 1 yet we could no start for a while yet anyway, so watch his space.

We got a case number from the courts on Thursday but no date’s yet, but at least it is another step in the right direction.

Munch on the whole has been a star this week, what I have noticed though is that he has reverted back to a couple of the behaviour that he had when he 1st came, he has had a lot of nose bleeds again, and he is sucking at his cloths all the time when he is not sucking his finger’s, so not sure if something is bothering him or not we will just have to wait and see.

One of the thing’s we have alway’s done since he has been here is pebble drop thing’s about his past to him which has alway’s been met with a ‘shush, don’t speak about that’ and him clamming right up, over the last week we have actually been able to talk to him about a couple of things and he has answered, another big step.

One incident that happened as well this week that just make’s me feel so sad for my wonderful boy is we had the TV on one night and I was watching a programme whilst he was playing, on the TV someone was saying over and over again that they wanted to go home and Munch started coping them, I said you are home, to which he answered ‘my real home’, I asked where is your really home then, and he said ‘with my birth mum’, it was all said so mater of fact, but I just felt so sad for him, what goes through his little head, goodness only know’s, no wonder he is so angry and find’s it hard to cope with thing’s some times.

Yesterday we went to a friend’s daughters 18th Birthday Party, Munch was very excited to be going, mainly because it didn’t start until after his bedtime. Before going he had been a right pickle, just in one of his very strange mood’s, being very contrary, nothing was right, he was very toddlerish in his behavior. We thought that we would get there and end up coming home quite early if Munch was not coping, but from the moment we got there he was fab and we all had a great night, at about 11.45pm Munch came and asked if we could go home so we drank up and made our way home, it was almost 1am before he got to bed.

Today he slept until 8.30, but did watch tv for a while so we got a bit of a lay in. He was a little grouchy a little through tiredness and a bit of continuing behaviour from yesterday, we had said we would got out and get his karate suit today which we did, otherwise it was all kept very quiet and we watched tv and did computer before bed.