27/11 – Karate Kid.

Today daddy decided to do a day shift at work, very rare as he hates getting up in the morning’s, Munch was awake so daddy said he could come into bed with me, he lasted for 10 minutes then decided he was going to have a cup of tea with daddy so downstairs’ he went, about 15 minutes later back he came with daddy carrying his cup of tea and back into bed he got with his cup of tea!!!

Munch put on his cartoon network and happily watched TV until 9.30, so I had a nice lay in. We came downstairs and had breakfast, Munch had his hour on the computer then sat very happily playing with his Lego, it’s almost mid-day and we are both sitting here in out PJ’s, so we are going to go and get dressed now so we can go and do a bit of shopping in Tesco’s.

Right shopping done, had lunch at the cafe in Tesco’s, Munch bought himself a little Spongebob Squarepants keyring out of his own money and we are now back home. Munch has phoned his big cousin and played on Club Penguin for 20 minutes, we have both spent 1/2 hour on the Wii doing Just Dance, boy do I think my arms are going to ache tomorrow and now against my better judgement Munch is on the sofa watching the new Karate Kid film, I say against my better judgement because we have has to take away his Disney Mulan film before because he has been very hyped up after watching it and is in everyone’s face’s doing his karate move’s, it not him doing he karate moves that is the problem, it is the fact that he is very much in everyone’s space and to close for comfort. He has been warned that should he do this after watching this film, it will be taken away and he will not be able to watch anything like it again.

Well film is over, we are having lots of karate move’s, but we are very much controlling it, he has given us a display of his karate move’s, fallen and banged his head on the TV speaker, picked himself up and carried on. Did some Wii Just Dance for daddy to see, they are now having some timed ‘karate fights’ they have 2 minutes left then Munch is having some calm down time.

Munch went on his Club Penguin until our Saturday take away arrived, we had pizza today, I would like to say it was yummy, but it wasn’t, so I won’t. Afterwards I started to get ready as me and daddy were having a night out tonight, Munch decided he was going to be a pain in the backside, he was up and down the stairs messing with thing’s he should not be, so I told him to go and put his PJ’s on so that if he carried on he could go straight to bed, that cured him and he went downstairs.

Merlin came on so he settled down to watch that and had his supper whilst watching, babysitter arrived, munch promptly threw up, combination of eating quickly and swigging down his drink to quick, puk cleaned up and me and daddy were off.

A few Bacardi’s consumed a good band listened and it was home and bed ready to start a new day.

20/11-Becoming Clingy

Munch woke up very early calling out to me so I went into him, he said that he was scared, I just soothed him and said that he was ok and he went back of to sleep, at 8.15 he came into our room saying that it was 9 o’clock. I got up been as I was awake, and had strong words with him about coming in before he is supposed to, and about not telling the truth about the time.

We had breakfast and then went to get dressed, whilst on the stairs Munch pushed me, something he does often, so was usual body language all wrong, not allowed, step. Afterwards I went to get ready with Munch 2 steps behind, I realised then how Munch is following me everywhere, and has been doing it for a while now, I cannot even go to the loo these day’s without a shadow.

We went and did a bit of shopping and Munch was well-behaved through out, he bought some sweets with his pocket-money and was very pleased that he had £2.11 left to add to next weeks pocket-money.

When we got home I got on with hing’s in the kitchen and Munch went into the living room with daddy, I was listening to him talking to daddy, he was telling daddy that mummy was weird, one of his favorite words at the moment, and he then said “you’re a jealous daddy”, so daddy said “am I, what am I jealous of”, “me” said Munch, “oh I am, am I” said daddy “yes, you want to be me” said Munch, that made me giggle, so funny what goes through their little minds.

Daddy and Munch then played at being spy’s for a while, Munch was playing really nicely, he had a little book he was writing his spy rules in and was in great spirits, then whilst playing he deliberately hit daddy across his face right on his glasses, usual speech, step. Once time was over he just went and lay on the sofa with his head on daddies lap.

After dinner Munch went on he computer, but again since daddy had gone to work, wherever I went, so did Munch. We then sat down and watched Polar Express, such a lovely film, and for the 1st time since our Intro’s Munch snuggled right up to me and we had a lovely couple of hours doing one of the things I had dreamed about doing whilst going through the adoption process, for me a priceless moment.

Afterwards, he went back on the computer for a short time, but the computer was playing up so he was making funny noises and creating. Then he wanted the toilet and would not go on his own he was crying and saying he was scared to go on his own, no tears I might add, I did not want him to think that if he made a fuss he got his own way so I refused to go with him, so he did eventually go on his own.

I was time for Merlin, he watch’s this every Saturday, he did at 1st lay on the sofa as usual, then came and sat on the arm of the chair I was sitting in, saying he was scared on his own!!

Bedtime routine was as usual, story, snuggle time and cream, followed by lights out.

The Weekend is here.

This morning started well – NOT. On none school mornings Munch has to stay in his room until 9am, he gets to stay up an hour later the night before so an extra hour in bed is not an unreasonable request. Daddy works until 3 or 4 in the morning, can sometimes be earlier, sometimes later. Because of this we ask Munch to stay in his room until I get him up on school day’s, on Saturday’s can knock at 9am and Sunday’s is allowed to come into bed with us at 9am for 1/2 hour. Over the last few weeks Munch has taken to going into our room in the mornings and jumping very roughly on daddy to wake him up, because of this he has been told that until further notice even on the weekends he is to wait until I come at 9am in his room.

This morning the 1st knock was at 7.30am, sent back, another 3 times, finally at 8.55am I sent him to the step. Now when he has to wait in his room until it’s time to get up, he is allowed to play or put his TV on, it’s not like we are asking him to stay in bed. The other thing that he does is alter the time on his clock so that it say’s 9am, he has been told no to do it but still does and is still amazed when I tell him I know what he has done, he still can’t work that one out!!

Breakfast done, a bit of a lazy start to Saturday morning with Munch watching TV. I went upstairs to get ready, by now daddy was awake so Munch was allowed to go in with daddy and watch TV, they had a tube of cheesy biscuits they were sharing, Munch still finds it really hard to share because of some past experiences, and we are working slowly but surely to improve this, he was doing well at first, but after a while decided that he was going to start licking biscuits and putting them back in the tube and mixing them in, a ploy to stop daddy having anymore, so he was told that this was not acceptable and that now nobody could eat any and biscuits were put in the bin. This started Munch shouting so he was told that he was speaking in a rude voice and it is not allowed, step, as it was the 1st time since we started this new way of dealing with his behaviour that daddy had sent him to the step, we had lots of banging and screeching at the door, but we ignored it. Up stairs afterwards to get dressed then we were ready to go out.

We went to the local shopping centre, Munch’s £3 pocket-money was burning a hole in his pocket so he brought a club penguin book, we went for something to eat, then just for a look around the shops. In one of the shop’s Munch ran up behind me and pushed me really hard, que your body language is wrong, straight home and on the step, felt a bit like rewarding him though as I think he was ready to go home anyway. Once home he sat straight on the step.

This afternoon has been very nice, first Munch played on the computer, then sat and did some drawing and writing, we had one incident, where I said that I was going to give him a kiss and he said if I did he would spit in my face, as soon as he said it though, his hand flew up to his face with a big oh. He was walking to the step before I even began my speech! I should point out here that Munch find’s it very hard to be touched or hugged or receive kisses from us. Even now 10 months down the line he will scream if we touch him, it is getting better, but we have worked long and hard to improve it, he will often hit out or as above make threats if he thinks we are going to touch him in any way, it is heart breaking, because all we want to do is give him big hugs and cuddles, but small steps have to be taken and slowly. We are for ever saying to him, that if he does not like something all he has to do is say and not lash out.

The rest of the evening has passed nicely, we have watched strictly Come Dancing whilst eating Pepperoni Pizza, then Merlin before bed.

Not to bad a day today, let’s hope we have the same tomorrow.