2nd Week of Easter Holiday’s and Easter Weekend

The Easter Holiday’s seem to have gone by in a blur, during the 2nd week Munch was bouncing a little and we did have to keep thing’s in check a bit he was very hyper and we had a few nose bleeds which are alway’s a sign that he is out of his comfort zone.

Thing’s were still very much all over the place in the aftermath of nanny passing away, routines where still out of the window, so considering all that we did get away lightly really compared to other time’s and hopefully now we are back at school thing’s will get back onto an even keel. We do have a couple of odd week’s coming up though with Royal Wedding’s, bank holiday’s and the school being closed for election day!!!

We had a lovely if not busy Easter Weekend, on Friday we visited Kids Space, it was good as it was fairly quiet as people were enjoying the sun. On the Saturday we took a picnic to Coram Field’s in London which is a lovely area, people can only go in if they have children with them, no adults only, they have a paddling pool, animal’s, play area’s, sand pit’s, we set up camp, and Munch was able to go off and play, they have someone on the entrance so children cannot go out. We only saw Munch every now and again when he came by for food or just to say hello.

On Easter Sunday we went to visit relative’s down on the South Coast, Munch loved having the day with his big cousin and as soon as we got there reverted to talking with a babyish voice, we had a great BBQ, then we all went to an adventure play ground, Munch tried to be very controlling when there, and sulked a fair bit when not getting his own way, he was being very contrary, saying he wanted to do something and then not wanting to when someone went to help him, then when they went off to do something else wanting to do it again, but nobody was giving into him so he had to give up in the end. From there we went to the beach, Munch and his cousin were so brave and went in the sea!!!! He was very put out because the beach was pebbles and he wanted to know where the sand was.

We went back to their house and before we knew it was 9pm, se we left as we had a 2 hour drive home, Munch actually slept in the car on the way home.

On Easter Monday when  Munch came into us he said that he had been sick during the night, when I went into his room his bed was covered in vomit, I asked him why he had not called for us and he said he knew he was being sick but he was sleeping!! Poor child had slept in a bed covered in vomit. He did not want any breakfast which is very unusual for him, he went off to Smyths to spend his Easter Money with daddy. When they came back we had arranged to meet the Ozzy relatives for the afternoon so that they could see Munch again before they go home later on this week, we picked them up and went to a local bar and Restaurant that has a play area and bouncy castle for kids, we ordered lunch and Munch had his usual, Spag Bol, he only ate the bolognaise sauce, and when we got home he just lay on the sofa until bed time and even asked to got to bed!!!

Yesterday was 1st day back at school after the Easter Holiday’s, Munch got up only ate half his breakfast and was sick again, so I phoned school to say he wouldn’t be in, he spent most of the morning in bed, he ate a little at lunch time, but again just lay on the sofa, about tea time he suddenly got up went to the fridge and got him self a bit of Easter Egg, and from there on in he was back to his normal self.

So in all besides our very sad news about MIL passing away, Easter although hectic has been good, we could have had much worse and are very proud of how our little boy has handled thing’s, me and hubby often look back to how thing’s were this time last year and cannot believe the progress that Munch has made, we in ourselves have chilled and have learnt so much over the last 15 months.

The one thing we are very sure about is that we love our little Munch with all our hearts and cannot imagine life with out him, and cannot wait to get our court dates.

Ticking Over.

Well since I last posted a few day’s ago thing’s have not been too bad.  After talking to the Play Therapist about starting the whole process again, I have posted on a AUK asking for people to share their experiences of adopting a second child when they have a very high needs 1st child and several people were kind enough to share their experiences, and the one thing that came across from most was that whilst it was extremely hard work, they were glad they had done it, so we definitely have not shelved the idea, and as we have not yet officially adopted no. 1 yet we could no start for a while yet anyway, so watch his space.

We got a case number from the courts on Thursday but no date’s yet, but at least it is another step in the right direction.

Munch on the whole has been a star this week, what I have noticed though is that he has reverted back to a couple of the behaviour that he had when he 1st came, he has had a lot of nose bleeds again, and he is sucking at his cloths all the time when he is not sucking his finger’s, so not sure if something is bothering him or not we will just have to wait and see.

One of the thing’s we have alway’s done since he has been here is pebble drop thing’s about his past to him which has alway’s been met with a ‘shush, don’t speak about that’ and him clamming right up, over the last week we have actually been able to talk to him about a couple of things and he has answered, another big step.

One incident that happened as well this week that just make’s me feel so sad for my wonderful boy is we had the TV on one night and I was watching a programme whilst he was playing, on the TV someone was saying over and over again that they wanted to go home and Munch started coping them, I said you are home, to which he answered ‘my real home’, I asked where is your really home then, and he said ‘with my birth mum’, it was all said so mater of fact, but I just felt so sad for him, what goes through his little head, goodness only know’s, no wonder he is so angry and find’s it hard to cope with thing’s some times.

Yesterday we went to a friend’s daughters 18th Birthday Party, Munch was very excited to be going, mainly because it didn’t start until after his bedtime. Before going he had been a right pickle, just in one of his very strange mood’s, being very contrary, nothing was right, he was very toddlerish in his behavior. We thought that we would get there and end up coming home quite early if Munch was not coping, but from the moment we got there he was fab and we all had a great night, at about 11.45pm Munch came and asked if we could go home so we drank up and made our way home, it was almost 1am before he got to bed.

Today he slept until 8.30, but did watch tv for a while so we got a bit of a lay in. He was a little grouchy a little through tiredness and a bit of continuing behaviour from yesterday, we had said we would got out and get his karate suit today which we did, otherwise it was all kept very quiet and we watched tv and did computer before bed.

Another Lovely Normal day

Munch came into our room at exactly 9am this morning, he got in with us for 5 minutes before we all got up and had breakfast. Daddy went to work and Munch asked if we could play his Junior Monopoly, I said I would that I would play for an hour as I had a few things I wanted to catch up with today I set the timer for 60 minutes as I find this works very well with Munch, I will give him a warning tha we have 5 minutes left and then when the alarm goes he will finish what he is doing, where as with out it can be very hard work to get Munch to stop. In that hour we played 3 games, I won 2 to his 1, Munch was happy about this, a big contrast to what would have happened a few months ago, when he would not of coped with loosing at all.

Whilst I got on with what I needed to do Munch 1st played upstairs for a while, then came down and played Lego for a while. Then he was upstairs he was making me smile as he had made himself as stage out of his storage boxes and was playing his guitar, whilst banging his drum with his foot and singing loudly into his microphone, I think the X Factor has a lot to answer for!!!

We popped out to pick up something for dinner as I though we were going to grampy’s today I had got nothing in for Sunday lunch, in the Super market Munch pushed me, when he bumped himself on the basket so when we got in he did 7 minutes on the step, then he chose to watch a Lassie film, he started off well but got a bit bored with it,  I had to remind him several times that on Sunday afternoon’s we have wind down time, by the time the film had finished daddy was home and had gone upstairs to watch West Ham on the TV, Munch went up for a while and watched it with daddy, they then came and played Junior Monopoly again. Munch was very keen that we had a ‘family’ game of Monopoly.

We had a very late dinner tonight, then Munch had a bath and straight down for supper, he was in a fabulous mood and was laughing and joking with daddy. He gave daddy a big hug, as we were running late it is a school night, Munch had to choose 1 of either, story, snuggle or cream. He chose snuggle, just after we had got ourselves all comfy and snuggled on the bed, he decided he needed to go and fetch daddy to join in snuggle time because he loved him, ah. Daddy came and we all had snuggle time together then hugs and kisses goodnight, not long after we were down Munch called to say he felt sick and had a headache could he sleep in our room, no was the answer, lay down quietly said I and go to sleep, 5 minutes later and he had 1 of his nose bleeds, this was his way of getting attention, at least it was because he wanted to be with us tonight and not because of stress.

Something has changed within Munch in the last couple of day’s, he seems so much more settled, he is very family orientated and is talking about our family and doing family thing’s and it seem’s to me that the happiness and laughing is as if he is accepting and realising that we are his family, I have lost count of the time’s he has told us that he loves us, listened to him singing away to himself, how he loves his mama, how he loves the dog. I will take this for as long as it lasts, and we will drink in every moment of it.

SW’s Visit – 17/11

We had a good morning today, I had told Munch the previous evening that his SW was visiting today as it ment that he was unable to stay to film club after school. We had stopped telling him before his SW visited and we normally only tell him now when we pick him up from school when his SW is already here as the first couple of times he visited Munch was awake all night before with pains in his legs. Munch had slept all night so that was good.

We were not only having a visit from Munch’s SW but our SW was coming to as we have our 4th review next week, our SW was coming a bit before so that we could discuss anything we needed to before Munch’s SW arrived. In the mean time we received a phone call from Munch’s school to say that he had really bad nose bleed and what should they do!!!! I explained to them that his was one of Munch’s big trick’s when he is stress about anything, when he was 1st here we used to get up to his bedroom wall looking like a massacure had taken part in his bedroom, he would plaster his walls by his bed in blood, I was a bit annoyed, the fact that we had no leg pains last night, it was his way of showing his stress, person who I was talking to went and spoke to person dealing with Munch and came back and said, no he had not made I bleed himself, to which I said that he is very clever in how he does it,  I have seen him make it pour in front of me on more han one occasions when he has not been able to deal with a situation. They asked me what I wanted to do, he is at school with you what do you want me to do!!!!! Person said that they would speak to the head teacher and phone back, by now Munch’s SW had phoned early to say that he was at the station, so off when daddy to pick him up, our SW then turned up, so not much time to talk to her about anything before the other one turned up, and then the head teacher phoned to say that Munch was looking very pale  so it would be best if we picked him up, this I was not pleased with as giving Munch’s track record I have visions of a nose bleed every time something is happening he is not keen on at school. I told her that I was just waiting for the SW to turn up and we would be there when we could. We took the opportunity to have 10 minutes all together when daddy and SW got back then daddy went and fetched Munch.

Before fetching Munch we managed to talk about his SW applying for more funding for he play therapy and us having our papers ready so that everyone in agreement we can put our papers in to court he very next day, yipee!!!!

Munch and daddy turned up, Munch looked far from pale and put on a great show with his pool table, wanted to wash his nose asap, which they had not been willing to do a school. One very happy to be home child, able to listen to everything that was being said. The good thing that came out of it was that, Munch having been seen by his SW,  off when said SW nice and early, he had booked into a hotel for the night as he always does, so was having a nice early finish.

Sw’s gone, Munch wanted to play with his Lego with daddy, he was very obviously on a Knife edge though after the visit and some of our biggest meltdowns have been post SW visits, he was in one of his contrary moods, and it was obvious that it did not mater what anybody did it was going to be wrong, in the end I just said you are being very rude all the time, it is not allowed, step. He was not happy, banged on the door, made lots of noise for he 1st couple of minutes then just sat on the step. This seemed to regulate him though and he and daddy had a great time with the Lego up until dinner.

After his bath Munch was allowed to have his supper and drink in the living room whilst watching TV for a one-off. Upstairs straight after for story, but Munch, kept interupting and messing around so story book got put away, we then did snuggle time, but when time was up he would not move hen was very hyper and I had to leave the room with hug or kiss, just I good night, I waited for it and a few minutes later got he call fo a hug and a kiss, which I went up and we had. Quiet at last.