Halloween

Today was our 1st Halloween together, after getting this morning ran very smoothly, and as Munch was on his best behaviour off we went to buy some things for Halloween that we had not been able to get yesterday. It was a good day to buy as everything was half price. We picked up a few bits then went off to the supermarket to get lunch.

When in there they were doing face painting for Halloween so Munch had his face painted as a Devil, shopping got and off we went home, no incidents today thank goodness. In the car granny asked Munch what he was going to say at people’s door’s and he said ‘Merry Christmas’ which made as all laugh.

At home we set about carving our pumpkin, then decorated for Halloween, Munch was very excited and could not wait for it to get dark so that he could go Trick or Treating.

I was getting the dinner ready in the kitchen and gave Munch a bag of prawn cracker’s that had come with the Chinese that the adults had for tea, Munch finds it really hard to share anything, not just because he is very emotionally immature in some area’s but also because of some of the things that happened to him in his early years and we have worked hard and patiently to help him in this area, but we are fighting an up hill battle and we are taking it slowly and gradually he is improving. Whilst I was doing the dinner I could hear granny asking Munch to give her one to which Munch would not, she kept on and Munch kept saying no, before I could intervene, I think that granny took the crackers of Munch, as all I heard was a lot of screaming and granny saying ‘hear take them I don’t want one know, your spiteful and nasty’ or words to that effect anyway, when I came in the living room Munch’s nose was bleeding, granny said that she had put her hands up to defend herself, which I have no doubt that she had to, but I was so angry and said we have worked hard, and do no want the little progress we have made undone!!!

Munch watched TV quietly until it was time o go Trick or Treating, we were out for 1 1/2 hours and he did very well and had a very full pumpkin bucket. Back home we had dinner really late, I had just told Munch he had 10 minutes until bed when daddy phoned and said that he was on his way home so Munch was allowed to stay up and have 10 minutes with daddy then it was off to bed. I was called to put cream on to Munch and not heard a peep since.

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Oh Dear!

Yesterday morning from the minute Munch go up he was in a hyper mood going at a 100 miles an hour. He was not to bad just doing everything really quickly.

Later we all got ready and went to the local shopping centre, we went for something to eat, all the time we were out Munch was pushing at the boundaries several times he was asked to do things or not to do things and it would take several times before he would listen. We were going to a shop to get things for Halloween today and a few times I said that if he continued we would not go, on the way to the shop, he kept repeating over and over, please can we go to the —–, I asked him to stop, he carried on, I said that if he carried on we would not go, he carried on whilst laughing, so I said  he had to many chances and that was it we were going home, Munch did not like it at all and at this point I could see we were in for one of his meltdowns, he cried and growled on the way back to the car, he got in and we started off home. When he is in this zone we know that there is no reasoning with him as this just fuels it and we just we have to do to keep him and ourselves safe. Granny though decided that she was to start telling him how if he had listened to mummy and not kept pushing it, Munch by this stage just could not cope with that and hit granny round the head, I had to pull over into a petrol station and get him out of the car, by now he was in his really scary zone where he just cannot control it, I could not let go of him as it was to dangerous, but just holding him by the hand, he was able to hit out, kick, bite, spit so I literally had to get behind him and restrain him. The lady came out from he garage and knocked on the car window to ask if she could do anything. LIKE WHAT!!!!! He eventually seemed to calm so I got him back in the car, only for him to lash out again, so back out of the car we got, I said that we would have to walk home, he was completely out of it, I had to sit at a bus stop and restrain him, it must have taken 1/2 hour to get him to  a calm enough state to get back into the car. He was told that when we got home he was going to his bedroom for a cool down period, if he hit or did anything that he should not the time in the bedroom would be extended, we managed to get home without any incident, and Munch went straight up to his bedroom.

Once up there though he started again, I ended up upstairs with him for a good hour sitting in the door of the bedroom, he threw things at me launch himself at me with his fists and feet on more than one occasion I had to put my hands up to defend myself which sent him reeling back onto he floor, all of which I then got blame for being told that I had done it on perpose!! Eventually I could see that he was trying to regulate himself, so I got him to get his drinks bottle to suck as sucking is very calming. Munch sucked his bottle and then came and sat on my knee and snuggled in whilst sucking on his bottle. Eventually cam was restored 2 hours after meltdown had started.

The rest of the day past without incident, me and daddy made the most of granny being here and had a night out.

Quiet Day

Today the plan was to go to Legoland for the fireworks, but after such busy day’s for the past few day’s I decided that a quiet day was in order. I did not mention it to Munch, nor he to me so it was left at that. I was very glad that we did not go as later on we received a phone call from a fellow adopter friend who was there with her daughter to say that there was a power cut and the park was closing as the power was going to be out for at least 3 hours, so lucky escape is what I say!!!

Munch played on the computer for a lot of the day today, I know bad mummy letting him. We went to Tesco’s to do shopping, whilst there they had a special offer for an Alien’s vs. Monster’s Halloween Special DVD, so I bought it for Munch as he does like to sit and watch a film. What a rip off, it was a whole 20 minutes long!!!! Note to self, remember to check running time when buying DVDs in future. He enjoyed it though which is the main thing.

We spent an hour in the afternoon doing some Halloween picture’s, then back on the computer he went. Munch asked me to do something with him on Club Penguin, he had got up a video on YouTube showing him a mission. When I looked I asked to sit down to look as a though that I was an old video and wanted to check the date, Munch stood up and as I went to sit down got very angry and knocked the coffee I was holding all over the floor. I got a cloth and cleaned it up and was telling him how dangerous it was and trying to explain that I thought the video was out of date when he lashed out, hitting is straight to a 3, so on the step he went, he was very angry about this and as I went passed him kicked, so even though told by our play therapist that once the 7 minutes starts that what ever happen’s it is just that 7 minutes I just thought I am not tolerating this, so told him that his 7 minutes was starting again, to this he howled and called me a f*****g idiot, so I started it a, so I started it again, he lashed out at the dog, so I started it again, he did then calm down, did his time and went to play on the computer again, he looked very tired when I looked at him so I think that the late nights are catching up on him.

Whilst I was preparing dinner Munch played with his ClubIce Hockey game with granny, ate dinner well, played ice hockey again with granny whilst I got his bath ready. Bathed whilst playing with granny, TV, supper, he lost his story for teasing the dog and normal bed time routine. An hour after bed he was calling down for cream, once applied not a peep was heard again.