2nd Week of Easter Holiday’s and Easter Weekend

The Easter Holiday’s seem to have gone by in a blur, during the 2nd week Munch was bouncing a little and we did have to keep thing’s in check a bit he was very hyper and we had a few nose bleeds which are alway’s a sign that he is out of his comfort zone.

Thing’s were still very much all over the place in the aftermath of nanny passing away, routines where still out of the window, so considering all that we did get away lightly really compared to other time’s and hopefully now we are back at school thing’s will get back onto an even keel. We do have a couple of odd week’s coming up though with Royal Wedding’s, bank holiday’s and the school being closed for election day!!!

We had a lovely if not busy Easter Weekend, on Friday we visited Kids Space, it was good as it was fairly quiet as people were enjoying the sun. On the Saturday we took a picnic to Coram Field’s in London which is a lovely area, people can only go in if they have children with them, no adults only, they have a paddling pool, animal’s, play area’s, sand pit’s, we set up camp, and Munch was able to go off and play, they have someone on the entrance so children cannot go out. We only saw Munch every now and again when he came by for food or just to say hello.

On Easter Sunday we went to visit relative’s down on the South Coast, Munch loved having the day with his big cousin and as soon as we got there reverted to talking with a babyish voice, we had a great BBQ, then we all went to an adventure play ground, Munch tried to be very controlling when there, and sulked a fair bit when not getting his own way, he was being very contrary, saying he wanted to do something and then not wanting to when someone went to help him, then when they went off to do something else wanting to do it again, but nobody was giving into him so he had to give up in the end. From there we went to the beach, Munch and his cousin were so brave and went in the sea!!!! He was very put out because the beach was pebbles and he wanted to know where the sand was.

We went back to their house and before we knew it was 9pm, se we left as we had a 2 hour drive home, Munch actually slept in the car on the way home.

On Easter Monday when  Munch came into us he said that he had been sick during the night, when I went into his room his bed was covered in vomit, I asked him why he had not called for us and he said he knew he was being sick but he was sleeping!! Poor child had slept in a bed covered in vomit. He did not want any breakfast which is very unusual for him, he went off to Smyths to spend his Easter Money with daddy. When they came back we had arranged to meet the Ozzy relatives for the afternoon so that they could see Munch again before they go home later on this week, we picked them up and went to a local bar and Restaurant that has a play area and bouncy castle for kids, we ordered lunch and Munch had his usual, Spag Bol, he only ate the bolognaise sauce, and when we got home he just lay on the sofa until bed time and even asked to got to bed!!!

Yesterday was 1st day back at school after the Easter Holiday’s, Munch got up only ate half his breakfast and was sick again, so I phoned school to say he wouldn’t be in, he spent most of the morning in bed, he ate a little at lunch time, but again just lay on the sofa, about tea time he suddenly got up went to the fridge and got him self a bit of Easter Egg, and from there on in he was back to his normal self.

So in all besides our very sad news about MIL passing away, Easter although hectic has been good, we could have had much worse and are very proud of how our little boy has handled thing’s, me and hubby often look back to how thing’s were this time last year and cannot believe the progress that Munch has made, we in ourselves have chilled and have learnt so much over the last 15 months.

The one thing we are very sure about is that we love our little Munch with all our hearts and cannot imagine life with out him, and cannot wait to get our court dates.

A Lovely Day

Well what can I say after posting last night and thinking we had got away with Munch only calling down once, we had a barrage of him calling down, wanting us to go up, he was really playing on his ‘poorly’ on his head, I gave him calpol because he was complaining of a headache, the last time he called out was 11.45pm!!

This morning though we did get a nice lay in as Munch didn’t come in till 9.30am, and then got in with us for 1/2 hour. We got up Munch used the computer for a while, then watch a film on Disney XD. Once that had finished I could feel Munch becoming a bit hyper so channelled his energy in doing one of his jigsaw’s that he had received for Christmas. We sat down together for a good 2 hour’s doing his puzzle, it is a fairly big one so lots left to do tomorrow as well.

We left at 3.30 to go into London. We got the bus and tube to Leicester Square where Munch chose the Pizza Hut to eat in, from there we walked to Trafalgar Square, then part of the way up Whitehall before jumping on a bus to outside County Hall. We then practically walked onto the London Eye, it was lovely in the night seeing all the lights. After we bought Munch a teddy and he bought himself a little ball, we watched the 4D film twice before making our way home.

We didn’t get home until gone 9pm, so it was supper and straight to bed. Munch has called own a couple of times claiming to have a headache so I have given him some calpol but told him tonight was the last time as this was the second night he has had it and 2 nights is enough, no more calling since, but I am not holding my breath!!!

Today has been a lovely day, not without its testing times, but I have enjoyed it all the same and it is day’s like today that make it all the more worth while.

Bit of a Catch Up

We have had a fairly good time since the last time I posted, when the play therapist came last Tuesday and she asked how things were, it was good to be able to say good thank-you, funny thing was though is we had loads of thing’s to cover, a lot of it though was the little under lying things that are normally masked by the big issue’s that are going on.

Nanny ended up in hospital last Monday where she still is now, I have finally booked our 4 night holiday to Butlins in August for me, Munch, granny and big cousin which Munch is very excited about.

We have taken Munch to the doctor’s and requested a referral as we feel and the Play Therapist felt that we needed to get Munch assessed to see if he does have ADHD.

We went to Grampy’s for the weekend and had a great weekend apart from Munch being extremely hyper the who time we were there and this has carried on at home for the last 2 day’s also.

We had a Play Therapy visit today, and afterwards whilst doing our session we I asked for her opinion on going in to adopt number 2, I value what she has to say and I wanted to know how she thought it would affect Munch. She brought it more round though to how we would feel, as she said we have a child who has had a very traumatic and abusive past, that from her time working with him, she feels that what we have now is what we have for life, that this is him and we are going to have to work very hard at maintaining this structure for, basically what she was saying was how fair would it be on another child to live how we do, and our PT being very honest, and she is part of the adoption social worker team at our local LA, if she was looking for a family for a child, that we would not be her 1st choice, and I am grateful for her honesty, I had a little cry and felt like crap, the other thing she said is we have to think hard about our fantasy and our reality.

Her advice was to give it at least a year an then think about it then, so we will do just that, and we were not thinking about doing anything till later on in the year anyway.

We ha a bit of a blip this evening when Munch got very wound up about the computer, but I asked him to sit on he sofa and calm down and when he had done that I would come back in to him, 5 minutes later a much calmer Munch, I spoke to him and calm reigned till Beaver’s.

 

22/1 – Munch’s 1st Wedding.

Today started in the very early hours of the morning when Munch came into the bedroom saying very cheery that he was scared, I went back to his room with him tucked him back in and off he went to sleep. 1/2 hour later in he came again, this time he was crying and what can only be described as howling, he just got into bed with me (daddy still was not home from work) and was shaking his legs saying that they were hurting, I tried rubbing them, but that made him howl more, he then started saying that it was his knee’s, still crying still howling. Then it was his nose, this went on for a good 15 minutes, he kept hitting me and saying my nose, he would take no comfort. In the end I picked him up and carried him back to his room, he was still crying and howling, he was saying my nose, I can’t breath shouting it over and over again, I got him tissues and told him to blow his nose, he just threw them, then he stared throwing his teddies at me, was in full meltdown mode by now, he was shouting get out of my room, but the slightest move even though I was going nowhere, he was yelling no don’t leave me, I just said I am not going anywhere, I am just going to stand here where you can see me, he carried on shouting, crying and howling, but stopped throwing thing or telling me to get out, when he had calmed just a little and was just making a noise, I said right I am going into my room I will come back in 5 minutes. As soon as I left he room he was quiet, I waited for it to start again, but it didn’t, by then though I was unable to get back to sleep as he slightest little thing had me thinking here we go again.

Then hubby came in for work so silly o’clock I ended up getting up and having a cuppa with him, back to bed and I went into the spare room, so I did not have to listen to hubby snoring as I was shattered by then, hubby put the TV on in our room so I could hear the mummering through the wall, and I was just in that state where anything was keeping me awake, after an hour of listening to this I went in to ask him how much TV he was going to watch and he was sound asleep!!!!!

Got up a bit later than intended, we had a Wedding to go to today, it was a 12 noon start and we had a little way to travel, so we spent all morning getting ready. Munch is not good with new situations, so was a little hyper during the morning and me and hubby had discussed that we though we would see how thing’s were going and if we needed to we would leave if it was all getting too much for Munch.

As it was we had a great day, they were all brand new people for Munch as it was a friend I used to work with getting married, it was lovely as there were friends there who we had not seen for years, most of them I keep in touch with through Facebook, but one who I had not seen for a long time, when I was talking to her Munch called me, is he yours she said, yes said I how old is he said she, 7 said I, Oh, I didn’t realise it had been that long since I saw you last said she, he’s only been my son for a year said I, oh said she and off she went looking rather puzzled!!!! A fair bit had been drunk by then.

We were sat on a table with a friend’s of our’s who had moved up North a few years ago, and their 2 children, their daughter was the bridesmaid, and Munch and them were the only children there. Munch was on the whole very good with their 2-year-old and looked after him all day and also got on really well with the daughter who is a year  older than him.

Munch was well-behaved most of the time but was his usual self when in public, on the go all the time, loud in a look at me sort of way and very attention seeking from everyone. I had an interesting conversation with someone who I knew, but not very well, and because we were all siting together picked up on our situation, he asked if I minded him asking if Munch had a diagnosis, no said I like what, he said it’s just that I work with children with ADHD and he display’s a lot of the same characteristic’s, I was not at all offended as I think he though I was going to be, and I would not be at all surprised if Munch had, I read an article the other day which gave pointer’s to look out for and at the time though, oh dear Munch has them all.

We had one mini meltdown by Munch’s standard’s when he was told off by daddy for taking the little one’s balloon’s off him, he was crying and shouting, hitting out, I eventually, got him to come out to a quiet place with me where I spoke to him and calmed him down. We decided to give to stay a little longer to see how he went, and he was as good as gold for the rest of the night, enjoyed the fact he was able to go and get a drink when ever he wanted, he kept asking for a beer every time he went up, and came away with  juice or pop, but 10 out of 10 for persistence. He enjoyed the buffet, he joined in with some of the dancing, and made ever one laugh when at the end of the night after all he buffet had been taken away off he took himself up to the bar and came back with a plate of Chicken Curry!!!

Back at home, I had to rush to the loo and 30 second’s later Munch was behind me saying he was so shattered he just wanted to go to bed, no supper, no nothing, that has never happened before, no matter what with Munch he has alway’s had to have his 4 eat’s as he say’s, typical of a child who has at one time or another been starved, he even had to have supper when we went to my cousin’s 40th Birthday Party and because they put on coach’s we did not get back to granny’s until 2 am, so  for the 1st time ever in over a year he felt safe enough to go to bed with out supper, may not seem anything to most people to us that was such a big step.

24/12 – Christmas Eve

Well I think Munch has given me his cough for Christmas as I seemed to be coughing all night, in the end I went into the spare room to save keeping hubby awake as he was planning to go into work for a for a few hours in the morning.

Munch got up to go to the loo at 8am, he saw me in the spare room but just went to back to bed after putting all the lights on!!!! I got up shortly afterwards and went in to talk to him, he wanted to get the ‘prawn crackers’ as he calls the Christmas Crackers, when I asked why, he wanted to get them ready for our Christmas dinner, but we are not having it today say’s I, oh yes say’s Munch.

We got up and came downstairs, daddy was going to work for a few hour’s in the morning then we were going to meet him later on, Munch was hyper, he was running around not listening to anything, several times he was asked to slow down and concentrate, he ran and jumped onto me as I was holding a cup of hot coffee, he was sent to step, as soon as he was off the step, he started shouting at me as soon as his time was up saying I had waisted his time, so straight back to the step. I did my usual, and ignored anything he was doing while on he step, but I really wanted to laugh because ‘I wish it coud be Christmas every day’ came on the radio and he was singing away on his step.

The second session on the step seemed to calm him down and the rest of the morning went by quietly. We watched a bit of TV and played with his Lego,  granny and cousin phoned so Munch spent sometime talking to them, then it was time to get ready for our Christmas Eve outing.

We got the bus to our local Station, then took the train to Marble Arch where we met Daddy and we had a lovely afternoon at Winterwonderand in Hyde Park. We started by having a look around the lovely German Christmas Market, before moving on to the fun part with all the ride’s. We purchased some tickets as that is how you had to pay for the rides you went on, the 1st one Munch wanted to go on was this great looking pirate  Ride, can’t tell you what it was like as when we got through the front door Munch decided that he was scared and did not want to do it, we were lucky as they gave us our tickets back, this went on for a few rides, wanting to go on then when getting to them not wanting to. This was what he was like every time we went to one of the theme parks over the summer, I would have to make him get on something, and once he had done one ride, he would be fine, so that’s what we did, made him go on a reindeer ride and then there was no stopping him, we went on a few more, it got dark so was very pretty and was starting to get really busy and we were all getting very cold so decided to call it a day at 5pm.

We headed back to daddy’s taxi, and daddy took us for a drive round London to look at the lights. We went and had dinner at Planet Hollywoods because there was somewhere to park the taxi and had a very ok dinner, nothing special. Munch was very good whilst there, even when his Pizza came and it wasn’t very nice.

On the way home both me and Munch had a bit of a snooze in the back of the taxi. Indoor’s Munch watched TV for a while before supper, then we got a palate and put some carrots for Rudolph and co., a mince-pie for Santa and a glass of milk. We all sat around the table while Munch had supper and had our Christmas Eve Snowball, he was very pleased to be allowed to have one, even though it only had a couple of teaspoon’s of Advocaat in it.

So up to bed, new Christmas Eve PJ’s so he looked smart for Santa, stocking laid out at the end of Munch’s bed, he asked to read his Feelings book, so we did that Before I read him Twas the Night Before Christmas, then huge hug’s and kisses before sleep time, that was at 8.30pm, by 10pm he was still calling down, saying he couldn’t sleep and then saying we were making him not get any presents we were not going to bed so Santa coud come. During the day periodically we had been tracking Santa, so I told him I had looked on the tracker and Santa was still in Poland and had several other country’s to visit first so we had hours, that seemed to calm him and we never heard another peep out of him.

23/12 – The Two Santa’s.

This morning I woke up at 9am, I went into Munch’s room he was awake with the light on but just laying in bed. The 1st thing he said to me was “can you pass me my hair please”. He wanted his Halloween wig, and wore it for most of the morning. He asked to split his hour of computer into 2 1/2’s again, so had sometime playing club penguin.

Munch played for a while in his room before it was time for us to go to the Christmas party at the Children’s Centre across the road. Munch had a great time whilst there, he alway’s make’s friends easily and I had a nice easy time as he was off playing and eating.

Half way through the party, it was time to sit on the mat’s in a big circle for a Christmas Story and then they all had to make lots of noise to let Santa know they were there, what Munch didn’t know was that daddy was playing the part of santa.

Santa knocked on the door and above 30 other children all you could hear was Munch shouting, it’s santa. it’s santa!! We were worried that he would clock straight away that it was daddy, but he didn’t. He just sat scowling at Santa and when he though nobody was looking, he had a big beaming smile on his face. Munch still finds it really hard to accept anything good happening to him. We were sitting at the side of santa and you could see the elastic of the beard, so Munch kept saying, he’s fake. I just said that Santa was very busy and so he had some helper santa’s, he excepted this readily, and never once did he think it was daddy, not even when his little friend shouted “Santa’s got tattoo’s” as hubby has a tattoo on his wrist.

Afterwards, we hung around to say our goodbyes and Merry Christmas’s to the staff, so daddy had time to get home and be sitting at the table drinking tea by the time we got home, Munch was full of tales, of ‘fake’ santa’s and tattoo’s, oh to be so innocent again.

We had an hour at home before heading off to visit Santa again at a local shopping Centre, I had booked this long before I knew about the Children’s Centre Party or I would not have booked them together, we arrived just in time for our slot, so me and Munch jumped out of the car and run in to find Santa’s Grotto, daddy made it in just in time to come in. This Santa was lovely, he asked Munch what he wanted for christmas, I was waiting for the usual EVERYTHING, when Munch answered a watch, I think Santa saw the look of horror on my face, oh said he a watch, yes said Munch, a watch that is like a watch but not a watch!!!

Out we came and photo’s, key rings and fridge magnets all bought. Munch was so excited because that one was the REAL SANTA.

We had a very health Macdonald’s for tea, before heading home. In the car Munch was so tired he was falling asleep even though it was a good hour before his bedtime. Once home we sat at the kitchen table for supper and Munch decided he wanted to write his list for Santa!! 2 days before Christmas, we have been asking him to do one for weeks and weeks and he has refused and because of things from his past we have not pushed it. Anyway he wrote his list, we just kept saying it was to give Santa an idea, but he had to remember that there was only 2 days to go.

On his list he had a real parrot, with a cage, a puppy dog of his own, 2 things santa just can’t get at such short notice. Thank goodness the X Box was on there. He also added a letter which read – Dear Santa, I have been a very good boy and I listen to my mum and dad , love Munch xxx – the I listen to my mum and dad had come from a video message we had done for him from Santa earlier in the week were Santa asked Munch to listen to his mum and dad.

The letter was placed under the tree for the elves to fetch and off to bed it was, story was frantic, he was unable to kep still during snuggle time and wanted his cream, but just messed around whist he was having it so I stopped, he was being very hyper and messing around so I just left the room and went down stairs. I knew it would not be long before he called down as he will not sleep if things are left on a bad foot, 5 minutes later, mummy I need water, told him I had done his water, said good-night, love you, to which he said the same and peace reigned.

Me and hubby got all the presents wrapped, at 10.30pm I went to Tesco’s, what we have not got now we will have to go with out, once home a couple of glasses of Bailey’s were drunk, before we went to bed.

 

First Day of the Christmas Holiday’s.

This morning I got up to go to the loo at 8.40 and Munch was watching TV in his bed, he came into our room and we had an extra 20 minutes before getting up.

When we came downstairs Munch asked if he could have 1/2 hour of his computer time then and 1/2 hour later, well done that he had remembered he was only having an hour. He had a little more than 1/2 hour, sh, don’t tell him.

We all then got dressed and went to do our Christmas food shopping, Munch was in a hyper mood and a bit all over the place, but I suppose I have been here many times before now over the last 12 months and have got used to dealing with it, what I am not used to is having to deal with him and daddy together, I don’t like food shopping with hubby as it is, what with Munch being all over the place and hubby having a face like thunder and moaning like mad at Munch, I decided to cut my losses and go home. Most of the food shopping is done, I will just call in to the supermarket on our way home tomorrow night to pick up a few things I missed today.

At home, I sent Munch upstairs for his hour’s play so I could sort out the shopping, he was up and down up and down all the time with one excuse or another. I called him down for lunch, the film we we going to watch this afternoon was about to start so I put it on in the kitchen whilst we were having lunch, not something I would normally do but though that it would no hurt for once. We finished watching it in the lounge.

When the film had finished Munch decided to have his other 1/2 hour on the computer, then asked if we could do some painting, so we got out the paints and had a great time for an hour, painting and mixing different colours with the paints.

We had 1/2 to spare when we had finished so whilst I cleaned up Munch played Mario Karts on the Wii, before getting changed to go to my friends as it was her daughters 10th Birthday and we had been invited for tea.

Munch had a great time whilst there, and enjoyed having the other children to play with. we stayed for about 1 1/2 hours, before coming home as Munch was beginning to get a bit over the top and was finding it hard to listen, so before he got out of hand I decided to call it a day and head home while we were still on a high.

We had supper then bed once home, in bed we spoke about how it is less than 2 weeks away  now from us having met each other a year ago, Munch asked if he was adopted now, so we had a conversation about how, we have a review next month and at that review they will say we can send our papers to court, so as soon as the review is finished, me Munch and daddy will walk to the Post Office and all post the papers together, Munch was quite sleepy by then and went off with a smile on his face.

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